Who is Teaching Our Men?

You are my dear! You are the teacher for a man when you are his lover.

There is the story of a spiritual teacher who was offered a night of love by one of his students and he answered, “Thank you, but no. I don’t sleep with my students.” The Goddess’s answer as she looked warmly into his tentative eyes was “Oh, I don’t want to sleep with you. I want to AWAKEN with you!” This brought our brother to his knees in worship and surrender to her offer.

I share this story because you, Awakening Orgasmic Woman, truly are his Muse. Aphrodite is part of your feminine essence if only you dare to speak and show and tell… how and where to touch you. Whether he is touching you with his fingers, his eyes, his lips, his tongue, or his Wand of Pleasure, he needs your guidance… he needs your encouragement… and he needs your loving, enthusiastic heart.

Showing a lover exactly how and where and what you like is a great gift to give to him or her. There is endless information on the internet now, on YouTube, on many websites and in a thousand books and videos about how to pleasure a woman, or how to give good head… until the whole subject loses it sex appeal, so to speak. Yet there is a need to speak scientifically about female pleasure, as least for the scientifically-minded person.

Amrita came across a website recently that really rocks my boat in a good way… real women showing real techniques while naming them, defining them, and categorizing them in an effort to delineate and/or teach a lover or yourself. Primarily their efforts are in the pursuit of better and bigger clitoral orgasms… at least so far. This is only Season One. I happen to think this guide is going to be perfect for my highly scientific partner. Yippee! Let’s get started, Sweetie!

Check out OMG YES!

Love to hear your thoughts! As an educator, I am passionate about ways to inform and show things that are hard to find words for… i.e. “slower” or “a little to the left” might be easier for women to say than “more edging, please” or “love some layering, honey.”

Previewing touchable video to practice the strokes for a woman’s labia and clitoris is state of the art for modern technology. Is this how robots will learn the fine Art of Honoring the Yoni and the Lingam, one of my favorite subjects in Tantric Sex? Yes, darlings, Robots in your lifetime will provide immediate relief!

I sent my $29 in almost immediately, even though I know how to pleasure my own pearl-of-a-girl quite well, but I long for the words to express all her nuances, twists, and turns. I want the word masturbating to forever lose its appeal, replaced permanently with self-pleasuring. I long to hear the new vocabulary for pleasure become a thought-form in the minds of every human being. Evolution is here to stay!

Oh My God… YES, Caroline

Advances in Pleasure

There have been a number of times in my career as an author and an educator that I’ve shaken my natural curls in wonder, asking “what will they think of next?”.

I am a great believer in enhancement. Why shouldn’t we enhance ourselves? Women have been doing this for as long as we have lived. The endless hair appointments, manis and pedis, facials, and/or makeovers can fill a woman’s calendar… not all, but many! And all this in between work schedules, picking up the kids, grocery shopping, and some form of yoga, gym workouts, or simply a relaxing massage. We love beauty!

In a recent phone conversation with a doctor friend of mine, I was informed about the steady increase in vaginal rejuvenation. No, not the surgical kind, but the use of injectables such as Prolozone, PRP (Platelet Rich Plasma), and a procedure known as TheremiVa for women who have lost sensitivity in their G-spot, vagina, and clitoris.

I have recently been seeing my Naturapath for injections of Prolozone into a cranky arthritic knee, but I was taken completely surprise by the idea of these injections being offered in women’s health clinics across the country. My knee knows it would love to dance again, and the Prolozone (a homeopathic/oxygen technique) takes all of fifteen minutes at the office of a holistic M.D.

But in my Yoni? Now that was new beyond my imagination. However, hearing how these injections can and do give women a return to the orgasmic pleasure they had lost perked my interest and my need to know. And these fairly comfortable (I said “fairly”… everyone is different) procedures are offered from New York to Arizona to California and beyond. Check in with your local Naturapath or Med Spa!

Looking on the web I see warnings as well as inspiring articles about the use of oxygen or ozone therapy. While I am not recommending any of this, it’s my hope to inform you of what I hear and learn about.

Fortunately my vaginal and clitoral tissue are alive and well as I move through my 73rd year. But not every woman can say that. We are all so different. Our sexual partners may or may not have had the skills to keep our lady parts luscious. Surely women who have felt a deadening in their sexual responses would want to know all that may be possible for rejuvenation. But never forget your lovely hands and sensitive fingers for a daily dose of loving awakening! Daily practice squeezing your love muscles works magic.

If you would like to learn and practice your own natural rejuvenation, come join us for The Sacred Feminine Mystery School’s Sexual Healing and Awakening Retreat for women November 4-11, 2017, at Blue Spirit Costa Rica. We will deliver all the natural “cures,” and join in lively discussions about the alternatives. We will transmit Shakti energy to each other, which is an ancient rejuvenation “secret” women have known about for centuries.

Into the New Year with orgasmic tremblings… I remain your very own Tantra Goddess, Caroline

by Caroline Muir

Prozac_pillsDifficulty reaching satisfying orgasmic response for people taking SSRI’s (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors, aka antidepressants) used in the treatment of depression, anxiety, and some personality disorders has become a much-discussed complaint as a side-effect of these drugs.

The list reads something like this: Fluoxetine, Paroxetine, Sertraline, Citalopram, Escitalopram, Dapoxetine, Seproxetine, Zimelidine, Mesembrine.

I recently received an email from a friend and client who worked with me extensively on her years of struggle resulting from a powerful kundalini awakening. Many have reported kundalini awakenings as massive electrical “shocks” to their nervous system. Some awakenings are referred to as “spiritual emergencies.” Some are activated by menopause, hormonal shifts of an extreme nature, intense yoga classes, forced pranayama or breathing exercises, falling on your tailbone or sexual activity that forces too much energy to flood the system of someone not ready to run so much energy.

Sometimes in such cases, doctors prescribe an antidepressant. In my experience, antidepressants do bring relief from being on the edge of falling into the pit of depression. I, myself, have been at this edge or in that pit enough times that I have become dependent on Prozac now for over twenty years.

As a teacher and practitioner of Tantra Yoga and the techniques of increasing sexual pleasure… during which time I also was in a marriage relationship that was highly charged sexually… orgasms were as common to my day as the air I breathed! They were fun, easy and abundant… until six months to a year after I began taking Prozac.

Jumping ahead to the years since that time, I can assure you that easy-to-feel orgasms do return even when you are on a daily dose of antidepressants. Believing they won’t return is the biggest problem of all. There have been hills and valleys for me over these years, when my sexual energy and orgasmic response felt like they were behind a veil. I would get even more depressed, anxious, and even angry, until my lovers encouraged me to relax, breath more deeply, and enjoy the love and pleasure that was available to me… that orgasms were not their agenda… loving me and pleasuring me was their only goal.

Tantra is a great teacher of letting go of goal orientation. We humans all want our goodies as a result of the time we put into something like sex! The giver of pleasure loves and wants to feel and see the result of their giving! The receiver is often very attached to their performance and their agenda for the Big O. When we seemingly “fail” in this regard, sex becomes a letdown rather than an opportunity to share love and intimacy.

As I now expand my Tantra teachings to include the Yoga of Intimacy, there is infinite room for pleasure, love, and intimacy without the pressure of achieving a goal. Sure, you may want those orgasms! But I invite you to look at how they are really serving you.

Once I relaxed and let go of what I thought I wanted as a result of receiving sensual/sexual pleasure, my whole world opened to the love so essential to my happiness. Orgasms are wonderful, but much less important than connection, intimacy, and loving touch.

Do you have experience with antidepressants and orgasm? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.