To “consort” as a verb or “consort” as a noun, means “to keep company with or to accompany another.” We have all read of the queen’s consort or the king’s consort. During my active Tantra life, I often experienced the consort as being a lover or constant companion of someone… in some cases, me! A consort does not have to consort in the erotic realms though sometimes they choose to do so. However, this changes everything! It adds a degree of absolute thrill that is fully charged to lead the lovers onward.

I have often had a consort of a Tantric nature as those of you who have read Tantra Goddess know a lot about. The lovers I described in my memoir were often referred to by my husband and beloved as “consorts of the Queen.” Charles gave me the title of “my Queen” way back in our earliest weeks of going beyond teacher/student, once we began consorting as Lovers. “The Queen” and “My Queen” stuck for so long that in the media I became known as the “Queen of Tantra.” It’s a lot to live up to, I assure you. A crown is heavy… it flattens down my hair… so who needs them anyway?

My her-story of consorting in the erotic realms has left a warm glow that, paradoxically, often renders me terrified of it happening again in my life. I always have my antennae tuned to the erotic in others, but rarely does someone hook me into their orbit. Partly, this is due to my private work and the level of integrity I demand of myself in order to work intimately with both women and men. As a sacred sexuality practitioner is trained in the transpersonal to hold an impeccable space for sexual healing, I learned from past mistakes how valuable a commitment this really is.

There were times in my very active Tantric years when I offered sexual healing and awakening to another only to find myself unable to hold to clear boundaries as I found myself in sexual communion with them. For me, sexual communion led to a version of “falling in love,” which confused the matter entirely. This led to a sexual and/or erotic affair, and once that happens, consciousness a sexual healer must hold is lost within the chaos of emotion.

Are you with me so far? What I am trying to say is that sexual energy, desire, and surrender are all fabulous and at the same time… very tricky. This is where becoming extremely familiar with one’s own arousal is invited during a session while the giver holds their arousal energy in check… no matter what. Being in a turned-on state is to feel your aliveness and move within that blessing with grace and integrity. As a healing practitioner, acting on the turned-on energy of the receiver can turn the “healing” into more wounding.

I was guilty of this in my learning years. I forgive myself, but not without a strong agreement to learn from my mistakes; especially when I saw how my lack of boundaries impacted a trusting soul. Passion is a powerful and often confusing delight. How we handle this mountain of power is what distinguishes us between beings of integrity and beings of lust. One is not bad or good, but each serves a different purpose.

In my work as a seasoned practitioner of the high art of sexual awakening and healing, I take my commitment to hold sacred, impeccable space very seriously. Long gone are the days where my boundaries waver, and I’m honored to hold a powerful, safe, and ethical space for anyone who is ready to heal their sexuality and claim their sexual awakening.

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I am delighted (and a bit cautious) to include you in a big step I have made recently as a commitment to my work in the area of Conscious Loving, Tantra, and the Divine Feminine.

I’ve decided it’s time to update myself with an education in marketing. My private practice for women (Divinely Feminine Experience) and couples (The Deepening Process®) needs to become available to virtual and global students. I am welcoming the assignment of dissecting what it is that I do… what these practices are, and how they can be delineated and defined for the beginner’s mind and a wider audience. 

What was once an Institute for divine feminine education can no longer be contained within the walls and confines of an Institute. I feel deeply my success as an educator, practitioner and an author. I know that I have helped thousands, perhaps millions, of people interested in sensual/sexual advancement of a healing and spiritual nature. The conflictual or opposing energies for many around their passion for pleasure as it intersects with devotion to the divine deserves much more attention!

The word marketing carries a lot of baggage for people… much like the word advertising. I have previously agreed with opinions that you can’t market or advertise this ‘work’ of sexual healing and awakening… the Practice of AH, where sacred spot massage is only one tiny, yet huge, aspect of the Deepening Process of sexual healing. “How can you put a price on love?” some healers would ask. Love is priceless!

And so it is with new insight that I agree as to the value of love as the ‘carrier’ of the healing work. Those of you who offer this work… what is the magic that triggers emotional release powerful enough to transform a life? When clients articulate their gratitude after their sessions, I am aware that words are hard to come by that will adequately explain their depth of appreciation for this newfound freedom, this rebirth that many describe.

Divine Feminine Awakening opens a tall window on the view from above. Female sexual response, orgasm, desire, libido, mid-life and beyond are now receiving vast attention in the media and in the world of marketing. The light of consciousness is shining on the feminine now more than ever. It is shining on the wisdom women of advancing years and their eternal ability to know orgasmic and joyous pleasure while maintaining and increasing contact with their divine nature.

We are ‘marketing’ to the western woman and her sisters the world over. “Power to the She” is the subhead of a popular Fitness catalogue… even the Dali Lama is quoted as having said, “…the world will be saved by the western woman.” And in the film Dangerous Beauty, our heroine states,

I confess I find more ecstasy in passion than prayer… such passion IS prayer.

So tell me in the comments below… what would YOU like to learn from an online program of my creation?

Blessings of Passion and Prayer, Caroline

Feu d'artifice coeur et refletsI recently had the privilege of teaching a class to 130 students at the One Taste organization in San Francisco. Their primary practice is called “OM” (as in Orgasmic Meditation), or Slow Sex as I understand it from their material. Those who OM love it as a path and a practice just as those who practice Tantra love Tantra as their path and practice.

I had the opportunity to experience an entry-level OM in the form of 15 minute receiving session from a perfect stranger who was recommended by a friend. I felt relaxed and safe, and what I received was a very honorable and delicately offered massage to the upper left quadrant of my clitoris after the hood had been softly rolled back.

This being my first OM, obviously I was a novice. I was instructed to simply lay back, close my eyes, and allow something or nothing to happen. I was not to reach out and touch the man who gave to me, or to try to become aroused… or not. He told me after looking at his watch when the 13-minute mark had been reached, and that we had 2 more minutes before completion of the session. That was the extent of our conversation. I felt open, relaxed, and rested as he wiped the lube from my yoni. I put my panties and skirt back on as he straightened up the sheet and folded the towel, putting his things away in his pack. We embraced and I walked him to the front door and we said farewell… “It was lovely to meet you!”

Astonished? I was! I am told this is such a popular practice that  thousands of people are “OMing.” At lunch hour, before dinner, or anytime one can arrange for a 15 minute OMing session. The rules of OMing are that the man must travel to the woman’s address, he must not charge her for his time, and he must ideally enjoy and receive as much as she does.

I welcomed the opportunity to share my mastery of Sacred Spot Massage and Sexual Awakening and Healing (AH) to the One Taste Orgasmic Mastery students. What I noticed among some of the students at One Taste was that they have their One God (OMing) and were not so open to my offering of sacred spot massage practice with its requirements of eyes open, making sounds, and deep breathing; or to learning the healing modalities of internal massage for both men and women as a Tantric practice. Many others waited in line to thank me as we ended the class, tears obviously streaming down the cheeks of grateful students.

I love the opportunity to weave knowledge and share it with eager minds and hearts. As I walked away feeling an uneasy sensation in my belly, I began to look back in history at the never-ending religious wars–the “my God is better than your God” way of reaching for the same Light. In this case, a similar desire for pleasure and awakening.

I am aware that Tantra is tribal. Tantra is a Yoga that is several thousand years old, a study and practice that has surfaced in modern times as a result of the sexual revolution of the 1960’s.  It is a guide for lovers of love. It has many tastes and many gods (as the Hindu pantheon has many gods and goddesses). And yet, I admit to how simple those 15 minutes were, alone with a stranger I chose to trust with a very intimate part of me. Is it only in America that we are too busy to make love an art form?

I wonder… and I love you!

Please let me know your thoughts in the comments section below.

Caroline