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How You See Others Can Tell You a Great Deal About Yourself

 

Have you ever noticed how you compare yourself to others?

 

Say your good friend suddenly meets a man and he is crazy about her. The more they see of each other, the more your mind turns to thoughts such as…

She really isn’t that attractive.

She still carries that extra weight.

At least she could get a new hairstyle or do something more to enhance her looks.

And on and on you go, comparing and judging your friend by outside appearances, rather than showing sincere curiosity about what it is that makes her so attractive to a desirable man.

Do you find yourself resenting your friend’s new happiness, while you wish that it were you getting dressed for yet another date to go dancing or to dinner?

Are your buttons getting pushed as this reminds you of high school, when it seems all of the desirable boys wanted to date your tiny and petite friends?

Back then, it probably made you feel far larger than you actually were. And perhaps still today, even if you fit beautifully into a size 12, you question your desirability and attractiveness.

Your subconscious mind is still feeling the rejection of the teenager! It holds you back from projecting confidence and self-esteem. You will continue to attract friends who push those old buttons, often seeing them as causing your pain.

At your core you are certain that you can never be enough. Your core is a very deep place and you may wonder if it can even be accessed or if you are just stuck with this old stuff.

Much of my life read like the above. It wasn’t until my beloved friend and lover began working with me using several simple techniques I now teach, that I began to crack the hard crust over my core and allow love to flow in. Under that crust is an ocean of the warmest love… a love for myself that has given me the greatest gifts of my life.

We don’t all have the good fortune to meet a friend or lover who can undertake the role of cracking us wide open. It is not a role for the faint of heart. I cried uncontrollable burning tears for years in order to melt my resistance to being loved, because I was taught from childhood that it was better to give than to receive. It wasn’t until I could truly put myself first that I began to live a happy and turned-on life.

 

You don’t have to go through years of tears to access your own self-love!

 

I can help you

 

♥ recognize the life patterns that hold you back from loving yourself and how to catch yourself “in the act.”

♥ appreciate and reward yourself for the work you are doing to reclaim your birthright of ecstatic aliveness.

♥ see the hidden fears that keep you in pain in your relationships.

♥ transform the tricks your mind plays on you that bring you pain rather than pleasure.

♥ shift loneliness, pain, and despair into True Love

 

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Big Love, Caroline

Boy, Was My Face Red!

Mask FaceAs I prepare to go “public” in a whole new way, promoting my new online program, I’ve struggled with my self-confidence. My face and skin wear the markings of a life lived outdoors… a lifetime of facing the sun, having never heard of sunscreen and hating hats until it was too late.

I decided to go to a cosmetic surgeon in mid January for a deep CO2 Laser procedure on my face to remove the damage of those sun-loving decades on Maui. The Doc assured me I would be “back on the street,” or back in the pool, in three weeks; however, it’s taken a bit longer than that.

Nightmarish misery kept me awake many nights under my CPAP mask prescribed for sleep apnea several years ago, trying to figure out who I could blame for this. The CPAP mask added to my discomfort and aggravated my healing skin. I had to keep going “in” until I forgave myself for creating the need for this procedure. Many skin cancers have been removed since living on Maui, and I lovingly (with one side of my smile askance) began to call myself “Scarface.”

And yet, skilled with applying make-up since I was twelve years old, I still managed to shine! It’s all in the eyes, they say… and, I also want my glow to be in my skin. These weeks indoors and out of the public eye have revealed how much computer work and writing I still need to finish before my online program launches in April. It also propelled me to clean out closets, refresh my bras and panties drawer with many drops of Lavender from Provence, and even visit Facebook and browse the Internet more than I normally do.

Oh, The Discoveries I Made! I’ve connected with Anaiya Sophia of southern France, and she is the pioneering sister who holds the privilege of teaching and embodying Divine Sexuality beyond Tantra. She is birthing New Paradigm Relationships and the Awakening of the Sacred Body through touch. Anaiya teaches the Feminine expression of Christ Consciousness from the tradition of Mary Magdalene. She is a mystic of great wisdom, and now my friend.

I plan to work with Anaiya and her beloved Pete next year. I met them both during a Skype call in mid-February. She is the first teacher I have been drawn to study and work with in quite some time. She invites me to look deeply at myself and what I bring to the table of loving and living.

Loving Life with you, Caroline