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I’m going to share with you my personal practices… the ones that keep me young, flexible, and sexually alive. Are you ready?

 

 

 

 

White Tantra Yoga

 

I settle in on my yoga mat to experience my version of going to Church, minus the hard pews and lengthy rituals that no longer have much meaning to me.

As I put on my White Tantra Yoga CD, the soft voice of Charles Muir guides me through my postures and breathing practices (pranayamas) while reminding me about quieting my busy, thinking mind; his words lull me into “the zone” of a meditative mind.

Listening with my eyes lowered slows me into rhythmic breathing, a nice change from the shallow breath of a faster pace. Background music gently supports me as the expertly taught class adds to the experience of dropping into the bliss of union with my own spirit. From this union, my whole being smiles.

Somewhere between 30 and 60 minutes, I feel I am ready to shift gears as my body and energy call for a change of pace… and I change the CD into drums beats or soulful rhythms that invite my body to move sensuously around the room or across the floor, leaving form and moving into the formless.

 

Sacred Striptease

 

Dressed in my most luscious layers, I put on the Sacred Art of the Striptease instructional DVD that was created by one of my favorite women in all the world, Diane Greenberg. She says, “This is a class about shedding the false beliefs and critical judgments we as women all have about ourselves.”

I feel like I’m right there in class, beside the other women, as she teaches me the ritual of removing my clothes as I swoon in rapture to the inner Gods and Goddesses who invite my awakening through the more sensual movements of my body. This dance is for ME, and I always feel soooo connected with myself afterwards!

We just received a stock of Diane’s gorgeous DVD in our store, and you can order it today. It’s called Sacred Art of the Striptease – Awakening the Divine Feminine and it’s fun and fantastic!

 

Sacred Spot Massage with the Crystal Wand

 

At least once each week for 10 minutes or more, after lighting candles, I remove my Crystal Wand from its resting place on my altar and moisten it with a bit of AloeCadabra Lubricant. I then place it gently into my center of passion, as though angelic forces beyond my control are guiding it. I surrender my body to the natural movements of my pelvis; lifting my womb toward the heavens in gratitude and prayer.

I allow the final stages of this practice of union to gradually end with my hands in Namaste or lightly placed over my heart and my passion center.

Self-discipline is sometimes missing, but I know that when I create time for my practices I feel empowered, alive, and vibrant. I hope you will, too!

(A note about white tantra): White Tantra is a meditative approach to the solo practices of Hatha Yoga. The practices of Red Tantra are shared with another. Many of Red Tantra practices are defined in my books, Tantra, The Art of Conscious Loving, and Tantra Goddess, A Memoir of Sexual Awakening.

 

Your Pleasure Professional and Tantra Goddess, Caroline Muir

As an emissary for the liberation of women in the areas of sexual/sensual freedom and pleasure, I am devoted to their advocacy in claiming and living a life of radiant eroticism as casually as they wear a sweater and jeans.

I recently witnessed life-altering transformations during a four day retreat at a first class resort. I was honored to be the female Pleasure Professional for the women enrolled in this sensual adventure. To be trusted by these women is nothing short of divine.

I define my role for women as an experienced “midwife” for their pleasure and wise counsel for what blocks them from owning their right to pleasure. These women are living a commitment to their radiance and erotic divinity, learning (from various teachers) Tantric techniques such as modalities of touch, sounding or toning to enhance orgasmic pleasure, and the true Art of Intimacy that applies to either gender.

You can also achieve more of YOUR radiant erotic divinity by working with me or with other highly trained Tantric educators.

There are many hidden shadows in the sexual soul of the feminine, even with women who consider themselves fully alive, multi-orgasmic and fulfilled. They trust me to awaken and explore their bodies in ways so safe, sacred and sane it makes even me wonder how basic to human life this work really is.  “This work” is at the core of my career as a teacher of Tantra Yoga, sexual healing and awakening.

Loving touch leads my hands into shadows of the sacred space unknown to the conscious mind. I trust my intuition to know, and so do the women I touch.  Sounds and breath encourage physical and emotional release as the nurturing mamma in me soothes the beast of mistrust and fear. Opening to joy is an easy choice.

Indeed this has been an adjunct of my work in the area of Tantra, The Art of Conscious Loving and Tantra for Women. The Divine Feminine began as a university for the feminine soul as early as the year 2000. I have defined and redefined where I can do the most good. The intimate interface of woman-to-woman, hearts open, and souls bared yields results. Freedom to feel and to love joins us at the hip, never to be forgotten. Perhaps this is what the Dali Lama meant when he made the comment, “The world will be saved by the Western Woman.”

I continue to offer a limited number of Private Sessions and Immersions throughout the winter months at my home in Genoa, Nevada.

Stay cozy and warm,

Caroline

How could I not respond to so many of you who commented on my last blog, What’s a Girl to do with The Movers? 

As a Pleasure Professional, a Tantra Goddess, and last but not least, the Queen, I accept the invitation to continue this marvelous erotic adventure, at least in my imagination! In this scenario, my actions have very little to do with my nice girl and much more with my wanton animal self, albeit with a good head on her shoulders.

So many of you you cheered me on wishing I had just “gone for it,” and my sweetheart and I chuckled at the possibility! After fourteen years with the same fantastic man, the ejaculatory relief of the moving guys in my temple of sacred love would not exactly have filled my cups. My pussy, yes, perhaps… but not my Yoni, my chalice of divine intervention with God. Oh, without a doubt, it would have been an adventure into lusty passion on a hot summer day alone in the house… but with my background, this erotic adventure would have gone something like this:

“Hey guys….” (hmmmm….. not quite….. what would that sound like if I was in my power?)

“Men, what Ma’am wants is what Ma’am gets. Steve, reach into that drawer for that tube of lube. How close and how slow can we go? Pass those lovely lips my way, men of steel. Breathe hot into my ear and neck ever so slowly over my luscious breasts. Steve, I want you first, then Quinn… then Mike…. S L O W E R darlings…. until we run out of time and you have to return another day.” Panting hard now, the scent of man and sweat ignites my animal self…

Shit… who has condoms? Not me… never need ‘em! Where’s that lube?

Guys in a hurry never think about a woman needing more WET than they can provide. Damn… lost in the chaos, that lube was too far away. “Hey guys, just keep your blue jeans on and hold me tight, as if you love me more than life itself and you never wanna let me go.”

Right! I am a Tantra Yoga teacher… I know things! I know the difference between my human animal and my divine feminine. I know that sharing about an afternoon’s adventure like that with my darling over wine and grilled swordfish and vegies would not make his day. I know that hot relief is like eating at In ’n Out…(pardon the pun) and is instant gratification (hey, you want fries with that?). And I want you to know that I am having more satisfaction writing about the possibilities than if I were writing about hot sex on a hot day.

Sometimes I lament my graduation into consciousness as it relates to my own sexuality. You can still have it any way you want… there are no rules, only your own truth in each and every moment. I love it all.

Sometimes I want my lover In ‘n Out, and sometimes I want a slow dance that lasts a lifetime. That is how I view the gift of playing with energy as it is called for in the moment.  It’s all Tantric! It’s all Divine! Tantra is, after all, the yoga of everything.

The recent teaching week at Esalen Institute for fifteen couples of all ages and stages held the same gratification as it always has. One of the couples called Charles and I the Sexual Bodhisattvas of Love. Now that is a testimonial I am proud to bear!

Now that I’m settled in my new home and The Movers are long gone, I’ve launched my private practice once again. Individual sessions via Skype or in person (in Genoa, NV) are available and I’m now offering a 3-Day Divinely Feminine Experience scheduled at your convenience!

In harmony with the Seasons,

Caroline

Yoga teacherAs the wave of consciousness washes over us, people worldwide are finding my private 3-day Immersions as well as the workshops, the webinars, the teachers, the books, and the trainings that fulfill their inquiry about sexual awakening, sexual healing, Tantra, and the divine feminine. My email inbox reveals daily surprises from friends whom I have yet to meet…. students whom I have yet to teach. My enthusiasm continues to escalate as my energy is fueled by these inquiries.

So what does this all mean? As a culture, we are expanding and awakening to more of our potential. This excites me, as I love my unknown potential also. Though daily life still has demands that are filled with details, I look upward toward the greater Yoniverse for guidance, understanding, and my role in the unfolding of a life meant for living.

Is your role in this expansive weaving clear to you? The women and men who practice loving themselves as an art form are the ones who appear to live more and more in alignment with the wave… of joy, fulfillment, and purpose. Loving yourself is not narcissism, but a positive statement that you are special and worthwhile. Many say it is easier to love others than to love oneself. We have been taught that “selfish” is self-centered and therefore not in alignment with the outdated rule that “it is better to give than to receive.”

Balance is the reward when that which goes out also returns; and when that which returns goes out again, just as the waves roll in and back out as I gaze at the shore of the great Sea. It is with sincere gratitude that I write you from my own Source after you have endured so many emails this year announcing this or that telesummit or retreat. Thank you for staying with me as I experimented with being part of so many community events this year!

I will be moving soon to another wonderful house in Genoa, Nevada, the oldest settlement in the state of Nevada, only 25 minutes from Lake Tahoe. For the next few weeks, I will be swamped in boxes and bubble wrap, remembering to read my writings about taking care of myself. My hair appointment is made and my massage appointment is on the calendar, so please stay tuned to how well I love myself during a time of stress!

May the rest of your summer wash you in warmth and play.

I always love hearing from you in the comments!

In gratitude,

Caroline

By Caroline Muir

India TantraIncense fills the air in my home as I await the new clients coming in an hour. The curt and brief email indicated ‘my husband and me’ would like to see you. Arrangements were made and the time was set for Saturday morning.

I gazed at two faces I had never seen, but whose names I had become familiar with through emails and the phone calls that Shanti and I exchanged, discussing the details of their visit. She has been with her husband (the marriage arranged in India) for 22 years, and their two teen-age children asked curiously, “Where are you going, Mama?”

The faces gazing at me as I opened the front door were classic to the Indian culture… big almond eyes, beautiful smiles, small stature, well dressed, eager and open. I welcomed them into my office, where we sat on fuchsia silk cushions to discuss the upcoming session, bowing easily in Namaste, as is their custom (and mine also, by the way).

Shanti expressed in her lovely, accented voice that she has always ‘known’ about Tantra Yoga, but never felt she had found the right teacher … not in her native India, nor in the U.S. where they had lived for thirty years.

“I have combed the internet looking for Tantra teachers, but when I Googled and found Divine Feminine Awakening, Caroline, I knew immediately that my teacher would be you.” It always amazes me how women, especially, know from their feeling-place what or who is next. Her search was for an initiation into and with Divine Mother, and I was close enough to her vision that she chose me to bring this union to her.

Shanti has never been with anyone except for her family and her husband, a gentle, intelligent and lovely man. He stood close by her as I left the room for her to undress and put on one of my silk ceremonial robes.  When I returned she was under the sheets on my warm and cozy massage table. All I could see were huge deep eyes, full beautiful lips, and a head flowing with dark silky hair. Her eyes looked up at me in anticipation of this … her long-awaited Initiation into the sisterhood of the divine feminine.

I gazed long and easily with Shanti, my hands softly resting on her heart and belly through the covers that protected her privacy. I moved my upper hand to her brow center, and guided her into her breath, her chakra centers, the sounds of OM and AH, all familiar to her from the Indian culture. Her beloved stood respectfully apart, yet near.  Instinct told me to explain that I would now join her on the table and drape her legs over my lap so that my hands could contact her pubic mound and her heart. She trembled slightly, though her eyes told me she was ready to step through her fear and into the enlightened space of having arrived at her desired destination.

In the fullness of time and with her permission, I slowly entered her and rested my fingers softly onto her sacred spot. Almost immediately she went into process as her lovely face drew up into the pre-tears that would soon fall from her eyes. Many moments passed as she recalled, felt, and accessed what she had longed for her whole life. She wailed “my sisters in India all need this so badly … they are all subservient and afraid to stand tall in their power.”

“Blessings to you Shanti and to all of your sisters in India. The old ways are dying and the power of your passion is here to stay!” I exclaimed.  She nodded but could not speak, and through our gaze I felt the transmission to all women who have been kept small because their culture said “This is how it is!”

I gazed over at her beloved, and his teary eyes gazed back at me as he nodded his support for his wife. We later moved back to sit again on our silk cushions and joined hands. Silence is natural to those who meditate and we lowered our eyes for a long period of integration.

As we bowed in Namaste, Shanti asked if they could stop by on Sunday before driving home so that “…you would please bless our children, Caroline.” “Of course, Shanti, that would be my pleasure”… and it surely was.

Reflecting on the session in the altered state that followed, I realized that the magic of this experience was that a blue-eyed Kansas girl was the messenger of the essence of Tantra Yoga to these beautiful Indian people, a gift to so many of us from their culture.

Om Shanti… Shanti… Shanti…

I welcome your comments below … how do you feel after reading this true story?

by Caroline Muir

There is a new paradigm growing rapidly in today’s culture based on the sexual healing work of Tantra Yoga. As a Senior Educator of Tantra Yoga, I am passionate about re-writing the old way of thinking about our bodies and how we use them in sensual/sexual union with ourselves or with another. Lack of education is still the greatest cause of unconscious sex and lack of orgasmic power.

Women in roses. Cropped image of young women covered with rose pWhere are we going in our journey from human to divine? Where is the overlap and how they can co-exist? God is in our genitals. The divine spark lives in every cell of our being… yes, even “down there!”

Do you feel separated from your soul and spirit as you seek pleasure and fulfillment? Does your sexual center ever feel cared for or safely held? Is tenderness and nurturing part of your “agenda” for the parts of your body that are primarily thought of as centers for elimination and occasionally, sex?

My vision for the enlightened culture of the future is now clearly unfolding for me and many others who study and practice the Tantric Arts… The Yoga of Love. Intimacy is the biggest missing piece for most people when they choose to “have sex.”

Pleasure is a powerful human need, and yet we often settle for just enough pleasure to give our body the message that we are still alive.

two funny robots making loveEcstatic pleasure is essential for the survival of the human race. Machines, robots, computers… they are all becoming so advanced that they will soon rival the human brain. But as many of us know, we are so much more than our brain. We are flesh and bone, fluids and feelings, emotional or static in our physical response to daily life. Aliveness fuels the brain with substances that defy science, though many try to measure and footnote how these substances add to mental and physical health and activity.

Without pleasure we may as well wear stainless steel skin. There is an intense need within the human spirit to be ALL we can be. What I have seen is that sexual healing (I also call this The Nurturing Practice of AH) is a rewiring and a remapping of the hidden, private and unrevealed message contained within the genital region. In this space where interconnectedness is incomplete, there is truly an opportunity to cultivate our birthright of wholeness.

Please join Nevada anytime for a private 3-Day Intensive where I can teach you these arts in person. I welcome your comments below!

by Kimberly Dawn Neumann as posted on Aloha.com

Expert: Caroline Muir

Wouldn’t it be great if you could shut out all distractions and really connect to your body during sex? You know, be completely in the moment and put the spotlight directly on your pleasure?

Want to know how? By using your mind to improve your focus — and that’s where meditation comes in.

A meditative practice trains you to silence the internal chatter, which will help you tune in to every touch, every taste, every sensation. “Meditation is worth every minute you give to achieving this quiet state of mind,” says Caroline Muir, author of Tantra Goddess and founder of the Divine Feminine Institute for Men and Women. “It’s that quiet state that makes you open to your true erotic self.”

A quiet mind is also less distracted by self-consciousness and more open to heightened perception, which is just where you want to be when you’re most aroused. Any practice that brings focus to deep breathing while anchoring you in the here-and-now boosts your ability to experience erotic enjoyment.

“Sex is meditation,” says Muir. “Meditation is an inner seeing, and sex is enhanced by intimacy which I like to call in-to-me-see.” She describes the two together — sex and mindfulness — as paths to deeper understanding and greater connection. “The invitation to be mindful and present during sexual loving is a gift you give yourself and your partner.” 

Muir offers the following meditative techniques as a means of awakening sensuality and increasing sexual satisfaction. She suggests a 10-minute sexual meditation at least 2–3 times per week (and 30 minutes on weekends). “These are techniques from Tantric study that have transformed my own experience of the short, quick orgasm into something that last for minutes.” Need we say more?

Solo Sexual Meditation for Women

This meditation on your “internal” sexual muscles comes from centuries of Tantric yoga tradition, says Muir. “Mindfully focusing on the sensations in your body will enhance your ability to feel pleasure during sex and more fully enjoy the experience.”

You can do this exercise at home, at work, on the train, wherever. If you’re at home, set a sensual scene: Prepare a candle-lit bath or “pleasure nest’” with your favorite music, scent, candles, fabrics, art. Or sit in front of a mirror and watch yourself relax into a goddess of pleasure.

Step One: In a comfortable seated position (either at your desk, on the floor or on a pillow) with your eyes closed or open but with a soft focus, inhale deeply and hold your breath.

Step Two: While holding the breath, concentrate on contracting your inner female muscles . . . tighter, tighter, tighter.

Step Three: Exhale and relax these muscles completely . . . until you feel a pool of energy beneath you.

Step Four: Repeat two more times, squeezing as you hold the breath, relaxing as you exhale.

Step Five: Next, inhale deeply, hold breath while pulsing the muscles (squeeze-relax-squeeze-relax-squeeze-relax). 

Step Six: Exhale slowly while relaxing those muscles and when all your breath is out, immediately begin your next sequence.

Step Seven: Repeat two more times — pulsing as you hold the breath (squeeze-relax-squeeze-relax-squeeze-relax) and exhaling completely.

Step Eight: Continue to inhale and exhale slowly while you meditate on the energy you have cultivated that you are now “sitting on.” Consider repeating affirmations to yourself such as “Sexual pleasure is my birthright.” If that’s a little too Tantric, just think about sex! 

Couples Pleasure Meditation

Using meditative principles while engaging in lovemaking can help shift your attention from external distractions to the present moment, allowing you to get into you and your lover’s sexual pleasure flow. 

Step One: If your eyes are closed during sex, tune into your own breathing. Visualize your breath as it travels up your spine and down again. Or, concentrate on the sensation of your breath as it flows in and out of your nostrils, in an endless wave that syncs up with what’s happening in the rest of your body. “Like the lapping of the sea upon the shore, it relaxes the brain from all its busyness and turmoil,” says Muir.

Step Two: Focus on the scent of your partner. While you’re breathing deeply, breathe him into your body, and into the picture of him in your mind.

Step Three: Next, open your eyes and look at your partner. The simple act of eye contact enhances intimacy. Even if he’s off in his own world, allow your eyes to convey your thoughts. With a whisper of your eyes, communicate, “You’re mine” or “Slower” or whatever you’re feeling.  This will keep your mind from wandering and keep your focus on you and your partner and your combined pleasure.

Step Four: If you find yourself edging towards a climax, don’t be afraid to add a little “Ahhh,” with every exhale getting incrementally louder. This will help push you towards the edge and keep your focus on experiencing pleasure as opposed to allowing other thoughts to creep in.

Step Five: When you reach your peak, take in another deep breath, sipping your pleasure as if through a straw right up into your brain. (This will intensify any feelings of orgasmic release as you tune into the sensations that have just coursed through your body).

Photo credit: Kelli McCarty