SwansLove and sex go together like birds of a feather… but when it comes to mid-life, ageless women may have to adjust their expectations in order to reclaim or release the fullness of their passion. Furthermore, I am not convinced that ageless women are supposed to reclaim the passion we had in our youth, especially if we are in a long-term relationship with someone close to our own age. When does doing ‘it’ stop? Does it ever stop? And how many definitions are there for ‘it’?

Since men and women go together like bees and honey, when it comes to our combined mid-life years, things begin to change a bit. Let’s take a look together, as some of you are still very libido driven, or you are with a partner who is, or you have simply thrown in the proverbial towel. Or, a same sex relationship is your current milieu. Or, all of the above at different times!

There appears to be a new fullness to my passion as I mature into a fully organic and sustainable female (I will have wine with that, please!). I don’t experience my sexuality or sensuality as locally or genitally as I did when I was younger. Orgasm is a state of mind. It exudes in every center of my being, from my brain into my heart and finally settles in my genitals as a warm reminder of the pulse of life. Satisfaction takes on new meaning, and climax is all pervading! And still there are those rare yet precious times when my sexual response is like a young filly prancing in hot pursuit.

Passion lives in our entire being, as witnessed by the authors, artists, and spirited men and women who sing, write, and dance the praises of boundless creativity.

I am having a resurgence of passion for MEN, especially men who in their aging process are giving up their sexual potency to the inevitable lowering of their testosterone. If they aren’t erect, it seems that nobody is very interested. That is such a damn shame! Do you women know how much fun you can have with a ‘soft-on’? You have within you the power to resurrect your man, or any man you choose, by empowering and delighting in his soft-on!

There is quite a bit left of him besides his erect Wand of Pleasure! His body is as hungry as yours for touch, pleasuring, kisses, and contact. Sex becomes sexual loving as you move through mid-life. Thank God/Goddess for that!!! I am happy to consult with any of you about ‘soft-on’ loving as an art form! In a one hour Skype session, we can cover many of the teachings for Men’s Awakening and Healing, and have fun doing it. (Advance notice will give me time to find the perfect Skype version of a demo model).

Sexual energy is at the very core of our existence. It doesn’t die or lay fallow… it deserves to be cultivated by each one of us as a resource of creative energy gifted to us by our creator. Why else would so many post menopausal women continue to birth projects, paintings, and proactive passions after their child-bearing years are past? Mid-life is just the beginning… the beginning of every woman’s fulfillment into expanded passion in ways she cannot imagine. Until then she can look forward to her epiphany when she enters her next incarnation as a truly Spirited force.

Life extension doctors and PhD’s are in recognition and agreement about the health benefits of our sexual life force as a resource for longevity and vitality. Let’s not forget the sense of well-being inherent in knowing we are still able and capable of orgasmic pleasure long after libido wanes. The Practice of AH, the core teaching of Divine Feminine Awakening, is the single most valuable practice people can learn to incorporate into their intimate experiences. Loving, intentional touch and massage awakens the flow of molecules that keep our life-force flowing.

I wish you a holiday season filled with juicy expressions of your essential self.

Big love, Caroline

About Caroline Muir

Caroline is a published author of two books… Tantra, The Art of Conscious Loving published by Mercury House and Tantra Goddess, A Memoir of Sexual Awakening … Monkfish Publishing. Caroline loves to write! Her success as a seminar leader and educator has been featured in Elle, Glamour, The Wall Street Journal, Yoga Journal and many other publications.

9 Responses to “Aging and Sexuality – Making Adjustments”

  1. Gayatri_MariaLucia

    nice post Caroline ! Fully agree, I’m 60 …”Orgasm is a state of mind”…that’s it !
    kind regards from Bs.As., Arg

  2. Hope

    Absolutely beautifully written, Caroline. What a gorgeous testament to a man’s ‘soft-on.’

  3. Ciara

    So much love sent your way! Thank you for that wonderful reminder. ❤️

  4. Bobbi

    At the end of the article you refer to the “the practice of AH”. But I didnt see what that means, or maybe I just missed it? My guess…is it awakening and healing?

  5. Jim

    Doing “it” never has to end. I’m a 81 year old husband with an active libido. And a
    “soft on” is not the only option.either. Go to http://www.americanmedicalsystems.com and discover the miracle that science has wrought. I am fully functional and remain so as long as i and my wife desire. And the good news is that many insurance programs pay for it if your urologist justifies the procedure. Check it out. It changed my life and my sex life.

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