“If you’re really listening, if you’re awake to the poignant beauty of the world, your heart breaks regularly. In fact, your heart is made to break; its purpose is to burst open again and again so that it can hold ever-more wonders.” -Andrew Harvey, *The Return of the Mother*
I ask you…. does your heart really ‘break’ or does it bruise to the point where it feels forever fractured? The emotional heart recovers, and often loves again. Yet open heart surgery leads the medical and Medicare industries to the point of overload.
I once had a very precious friend. He is now deceased. He was a Heart Surgeon by profession, and husband and father in his personal life. He and his wife were Tantra students of Charles and mine in the 1980’s and ‘90’s, before his tragic death in an automobile accident. We talked at length about the journey of the heart, both physically and emotionally. He chose, for a two-year period, to close his practice and devote his time to his own deeper soul’s healing and his personal insights about disease and illness.
Dave’s words went something like this. “I knew each time a patient came in for medical reasons that their heart was emotionally broken. I knew that when I hugged them or laid my hands lovingly on their heart that this is what would heal them. Not surgery.”
I can still feel my tears as I remember his poignant words, the sadness in his eyes, and his frustration with medicine as the only “answer” to heart disease. I remember his touch, so filled with divine love. His family was very dear to me. We have lost touch. However, Dave is bigger than life as I write this. I feel his love in my own heart. I transmit that love through this message.
Please take the time to touch the hearts of those you love, and especially to those you may not love. For we all need to feel acknowledged and perhaps even loved… just a little bit… just a fraction of what you are capable of. For the human heart is eternal, endless, limitless, and deeply in need of healing.
We all long for connection, visits from our families, and an end to the endless suffering of so many hearts that inhabit the bodies of people everywhere. You can and you do make a huge difference with just one gaze, one embrace, one word of encouragement. There is a wonderful phrase going around that “we are the ones we’ve been waiting for.” Be one of the ones! Be all of the love that you are. Share yourself with abandon!
In the eternal Spirit of the heart, Caroline
Love and sex go together like birds of a feather… but when it comes to mid-life, ageless women may have to adjust their expectations in order to reclaim or release the fullness of their passion. Furthermore, I am not convinced that ageless women are supposed to reclaim the passion we had in our youth, especially if we are in a long-term relationship with someone close to our own age. When does doing ‘it’ stop? Does it ever stop? And how many definitions are there for ‘it’?
Since men and women go together like bees and honey, when it comes to our combined mid-life years, things begin to change a bit. Let’s take a look together, as some of you are still very libido driven, or you are with a partner who is, or you have simply thrown in the proverbial towel. Or, a same sex relationship is your current milieu. Or, all of the above at different times!
There appears to be a new fullness to my passion as I mature into a fully organic and sustainable female (I will have wine with that, please!). I don’t experience my sexuality or sensuality as locally or genitally as I did when I was younger. Orgasm is a state of mind. It exudes in every center of my being, from my brain into my heart and finally settles in my genitals as a warm reminder of the pulse of life. Satisfaction takes on new meaning, and climax is all pervading! And still there are those rare yet precious times when my sexual response is like a young filly prancing in hot pursuit.
Passion lives in our entire being, as witnessed by the authors, artists, and spirited men and women who sing, write, and dance the praises of boundless creativity.
I am having a resurgence of passion for MEN, especially men who in their aging process are giving up their sexual potency to the inevitable lowering of their testosterone. If they aren’t erect, it seems that nobody is very interested. That is such a damn shame! Do you women know how much fun you can have with a ‘soft-on’? You have within you the power to resurrect your man, or any man you choose, by empowering and delighting in his soft-on!
There is quite a bit left of him besides his erect Wand of Pleasure! His body is as hungry as yours for touch, pleasuring, kisses, and contact. Sex becomes sexual loving as you move through mid-life. Thank God/Goddess for that!!! I am happy to consult with any of you about ‘soft-on’ loving as an art form! In a one hour Skype session, we can cover many of the teachings for Men’s Awakening and Healing, and have fun doing it. (Advance notice will give me time to find the perfect Skype version of a demo model).
Sexual energy is at the very core of our existence. It doesn’t die or lay fallow… it deserves to be cultivated by each one of us as a resource of creative energy gifted to us by our creator. Why else would so many post menopausal women continue to birth projects, paintings, and proactive passions after their child-bearing years are past? Mid-life is just the beginning… the beginning of every woman’s fulfillment into expanded passion in ways she cannot imagine. Until then she can look forward to her epiphany when she enters her next incarnation as a truly Spirited force.
Life extension doctors and PhD’s are in recognition and agreement about the health benefits of our sexual life force as a resource for longevity and vitality. Let’s not forget the sense of well-being inherent in knowing we are still able and capable of orgasmic pleasure long after libido wanes. The Practice of AH, the core teaching of Divine Feminine Awakening, is the single most valuable practice people can learn to incorporate into their intimate experiences. Loving, intentional touch and massage awakens the flow of molecules that keep our life-force flowing.
I wish you a holiday season filled with juicy expressions of your essential self.
Big love, Caroline
Direct from the desk of Caroline here in Genoa, Nevada, where Fall looks like clear sunny days with cool crisp nights; winds blow and move the trees like spooky movies on Halloween, and a silvery, fat moon hangs suspended in the night sky.
I am beginning to nest in hibernation as my birthday comes near. Slippers and wool socks adorn the floor under my desk. Cups of Earl Grey repeat themselves throughout the day as I think of you and seek refuge in knowing you are there. I am also here with you, as a Priestess of the Divine Feminine and a Tantra Goddess all rolled into one.
My humanness is yours to know more about. As 72 years marks my calendar and photos from old shoots pass over my monitor in the form of wallpaper, I see the passing of time. I feel, however, the surges of creativity increase along with the markers of aging to skin that knew years and years of baking in the sun. I don’t regret a moment of it! Life is still an adventure waiting to happen. The warmth and joy of a life filled with the elements of sun, air, water, and fire continues to heat my burners. I rock with nature and She rocks with me.
Current musings and inspirations…
*I love the youth emerging on Kickstarter and IndeGoGo even as I wonder where all the new ideas come from as well as the energy it takes to implement them.
*I am drawn to visit France where The Magdalene supposedly consorted with Jesus after he was crucified and resurrected to live as a man who loves his woman.
*I see the days when my sweetie and I will fly away to explore more vacations in far away places that inspire our hearts and minds and set them on fire. We are still so young it almost hurts! Our vitamin cupboard fills a space so large, and it is where we worship in gratitude morning and night on the health and vitality we feel. Will is devoted to the results of nutritional supplementation like I am devoted to the results of sensual wholeness and pleasure… a great team after 15 years!
I am writing my next digital book for Living a Turned On Life, an online course that will be launched to the world in April, 2016.
Stay tuned my darling, as this she-creature from a clear lagoon splashes her way to shore.
Yours very truly, Caroline
A manifesto is a declaration of beliefs or philosophy.
I have written a Woman–ifesto below that expresses a platform for my feminine soul. I invite you to do the same, and live by the creed of your own making!
I AM WOMAN
Mother, daughter, beloved, virgin, crone, wife, and lover
I am divinely feminine, vulnerable, strong, and eternally and internally in balance with my masculine god force.
I am alive to fulfill my assignment as a warrioress of the truth, and destroyer of all that no longer serves the embodiment of female principles.
Female principles include living by the codes of light, love, equality, compassion, passion, right livelihood, honesty, transparency, and grace.
I meet each day reaching into my feminine soul for recognition, as well as meeting opportunities to reach into other souls in recognition of their essence.
Woman is creator of all in harmony with God. One without the other is like an angel with one wing. Together we fly in a formation of winged ones, singing praises of thanks and gratitude in the Psalms of sisterhood.
Please share your manifesto or woman-ifesto in the comments below!
Big Love, Caroline
Since the Divine Feminine Institute closed its doors-without-walls in 2012, I have soul-searched for the next solution for transmitting my wisdom and knowledge out to the people of this world. Specifically, how my Tantric knowledge and understanding of sacred sexual awakening and healing would continue.
I continue to move toward that which is moving toward me. Women, and the men who love them, are stepping forward. Rather, they are leaping forward and upward at every age… singles and couples… the stunningly intelligent, educated, and wise women from distant countries like Africa and Lithuania, Belgium and Russia. And, ironically, women from Wisconsin… not just California.
These Pioneers deserve a bow! They have found me and others who are paving the way for a more conscious and loving planet so that they can further educate themselves beyond their graduate degrees from top schools. I know that Charles Muir and the Source School of Tantra Yoga is continuing to fill workshops and teacher trainings with people from all over the world. Now I am seeing their migration to my home, and to the private work and teaching I provide during my three day Immersions for women and couples.
I speak to their courage. I celebrate their sensitivity to listen to the call of their own sexual souls. Their sacred space, YONI, that is the source of life in women, is calling out in cries that speak their truth. In these brave and inspiring pioneers of the Divine Feminine and all that SHE commands, I feel the breakthroughs reverberating across land and sea.
We cannot be held back. We cannot be tied down. We are willing to give our sexuality, however loud or quiet it is, a chance to claim total authenticity. I read their emails and I hear them say, “I want to claim my birthright, Caroline, of radiant vitality. I want to understand my body and listen to its subtle nuances. I have been living in a masculine world. I want to know the deeper meaning of the feminine.”
The time for women to wake up is at hand. The cosmic command is aligning with Mother Earth, erupting in volcanic explosions of orgasmic intensity to, in one word,
Big Love, Caroline
At every age they are arriving at my doorstep, intent on claiming their feminine birthright… the ownership of their Shakti. I am honored to shepherd them toward their goal. Women are getting the message that their time is now. Honestly, I am humbled by their forthright intent to do whatever it takes in order to not miss out on what is theirs to claim.
Skyrocketing levels of empowerment, self-esteem, acceptance of who they truly are. And perhaps at this point I will include myself… in who we truly are! For with each experience of women’s courage, mine is reactivated, infused, and channeled toward the explosion of feminine power… feminine knowing…feminine grace.
I cannot truly claim to be their mentor, for a higher force than myself is sending them on the gorgeous path to the abundant temple where the great Goddess dwells. In our oneness with Her, we relax further into the feminine mystery where we float and ride the current rather than laboring to swim upstream.
My schedule is booked solid through mid-September, and I’m taking bookings for the Divinely Feminine Experience for women and The Deepening Process for couples for the fall and early winter now. What is this, exactly? Find out more here for women and here for couples.
Are you ready?
As I reflect back over the past three decades, I feel so much gratitude for the education and transformation I’ve had the privilege and opportunity to share with thousands of people. The value of spiritual sexual education in my own life has been profound… and I’ve witnessed a similar impact on so many others. To be where I am now — in my 70’s, settled in a happy relationship, immersed in my life’s work — is so amazing; living a life that leaves me feeling fulfilled, vibrant, and glowingly happy.
This inquiry has led me to wondering how I can leave a legacy of spiritual sexual education so that many more can enjoy it in the future. Since I’ve always been a live, in-person educator, I’ve had to explore new ways to create a Queen’s Legacy that can live on beyond me.
So, after more than a year of promoting other people’s wonderful summits and programs, I’ve decided to create my own online course! I’m passionate about helping single women over 50 see their beauty, feel their aliveness, and know themselves as empowered, captivating sexual beings.
Yes, my dears, it’s time. I’ll share more about the program as it develops… look for more information later this summer.
With great excitement, Caroline
I’m going to share with you my personal practices… the ones that keep me young, flexible, and sexually alive. Are you ready?
White Tantra Yoga
I settle in on my yoga mat to experience my version of going to Church, minus the hard pews and lengthy rituals that no longer have much meaning to me.
As I put on my White Tantra Yoga CD, the soft voice of Charles Muir guides me through my postures and breathing practices (pranayamas) while reminding me about quieting my busy, thinking mind; his words lull me into “the zone” of a meditative mind.
Listening with my eyes lowered slows me into rhythmic breathing, a nice change from the shallow breath of a faster pace. Background music gently supports me as the expertly taught class adds to the experience of dropping into the bliss of union with my own spirit. From this union, my whole being smiles.
Somewhere between 30 and 60 minutes, I feel I am ready to shift gears as my body and energy call for a change of pace… and I change the CD into drums beats or soulful rhythms that invite my body to move sensuously around the room or across the floor, leaving form and moving into the formless.
Dressed in my most luscious layers, I put on the Sacred Art of the Striptease instructional DVD that was created by one of my favorite women in all the world, Diane Greenberg. She says, “This is a class about shedding the false beliefs and critical judgments we as women all have about ourselves.”
I feel like I’m right there in class, beside the other women, as she teaches me the ritual of removing my clothes as I swoon in rapture to the inner Gods and Goddesses who invite my awakening through the more sensual movements of my body. This dance is for ME, and I always feel soooo connected with myself afterwards!
We just received a stock of Diane’s gorgeous DVD in our store, and you can order it today. It’s called Sacred Art of the Striptease – Awakening the Divine Feminine and it’s fun and fantastic!
Sacred Spot Massage with the Crystal Wand
At least once each week for 10 minutes or more, after lighting candles, I remove my Crystal Wand from its resting place on my altar and moisten it with a bit of AloeCadabra Lubricant. I then place it gently into my center of passion, as though angelic forces beyond my control are guiding it. I surrender my body to the natural movements of my pelvis; lifting my womb toward the heavens in gratitude and prayer.
I allow the final stages of this practice of union to gradually end with my hands in Namaste or lightly placed over my heart and my passion center.
Self-discipline is sometimes missing, but I know that when I create time for my practices I feel empowered, alive, and vibrant. I hope you will, too!
(A note about white tantra): White Tantra is a meditative approach to the solo practices of Hatha Yoga. The practices of Red Tantra are shared with another. Many of Red Tantra practices are defined in my books, Tantra, The Art of Conscious Loving, and Tantra Goddess, A Memoir of Sexual Awakening.
Your Pleasure Professional and Tantra Goddess, Caroline Muir
Some words suddenly become popular that have been dormant or seldom used in modern language. For reasons having to do with what is needed or lacking in the culture, a word to define that void rises to the surface and is re-birthed. The word ‘immersion’ is now seen more frequently, perhaps because it suggests a state of being that we need more of.
This awareness led me to create my Private Three Day Immersions, also known as the The Deepening Process® (for couples) and the Divinely Feminine Experience (for women) … a private retreat for those who know it is time to dive in and bathe in the warm depths of more intimacy, passion, receiving and love.
To dip… to plunge… to submerge… these are synonyms for ‘immerse.’ When I consider what is lacking more and more as sustenance or nourishment in this fast computer age, I know the truth and necessity of offering an opportunity for people to deepen… to plunge… and to immerse themselves in the warm ocean of peace, quiet and rest. I am also aware that there are few if any people (or places) who are versed in giving touch, caretaking, listening and offering comfort to the sexual soul of another. Many issues are stored and unobserved in this deeply private and personal domain of human life.
I work with you for several hours a day, then leave you to your own quiet space to integrate and explore what you are discovering about yourself… your agendas or inner dialogue, your subconscious fantasies, or simply room to spread your own wings with nothing to do. In my private space I journey inward as well so that my time with you is uncluttered by my own work life. I take the opportunity to unplug along with you, therefore bringing you my clearest self.
We often need guidance to do this. We need to be witnessed and seen by someone skilled who can help us recognize what we cannot see or do alone. That’s why we go to yoga teachers, to meditation classes, to healers and teachers and therapists. We are not equipped to handle deep emotional issues alone. We need support and a safe space to dive under the surface and explore the depths of our emotional and sexual psyche. We also need to set aside time to play… and to learn more ways to play with our sexual energy… to enjoy our bodies while restoring them to greater health and vitality.
Sexual awakening and healing invites education and awareness for the receiver. Deep memory and emotions can emerge especially when there is connection to the delicate nature of the heart and its journey with love and sexuality. Seldom can the depth of these issues arise in one session. They can be activated, but until the receiver can trust the giver there will be layers of protection, fear and uncertainty.
I see the power of men coming with their partners to a Couple’s Immersion, open to learning the more subtle intricacies of female sexuality and emotion. It is uncharted territory for many wonderful men just as lusty passion is uncharted territory for many fantastic women. In an effort to heal the ‘battle of the sexes,’ Tantra is designed to weave our differences into One multi-faceted relationship of an exquisite nature.
Whether you are looking for techniques to bring more pleasure to a partner or simply need a renewal for your own, I look forward to welcoming you!
Please peruse the information pages to acquaint yourself with the possibilities:
The Divinely Feminine Experience for women
The Deepening Process® for couples
I can hardly wait to see you!
Warmest Love, Caroline