The Divine Feminine, though becoming more familiar to many, is very elusive in our society. She is hidden away, probably afraid to make her full debut. Why? Because she hasn’t had a safe place for expression.

But she is powerful. And she is inside you, and wants expression!

How to be feminine has been defined by a more masculine-oriented society. It’s time for you to discover and express your true feminine side instead of the one that has been defined for you.

In this article, I’ll introduce you to The Divine Feminine… what it is and what it is not. And how to start expressing the Divine Feminine in your life.

Where Does The Divine Feminine Reside?

The Divine Feminine resides within you. But she hasn’t had a safe place to fully express herself in this more masculine and driven world. The fact that divine femininity has been hidden away, not fully expressed and even repressed is why so many don’t know what the Divine Feminine means.

Nonetheless, she has healing powers for you. The divine feminine mysteries have been hidden for way too long. I’d like to begin the process of revealing them to you in this article.

What is Divine Feminine?

The Divine Feminine is sacred, sensual and often beyond the realm of day to day living. It’s something that can’t be seen but rather experienced and felt. It’s a healing force beyond the physical world. The Divine Feminine is also the positive expression of the feminine side of us that exists in both men and women. The divine feminine principle is within us all.

Ultimately, the reason why it’s difficult to know what the Divine Feminine principle means is that very few people have experienced it. We’ve lost our connection to the Divine Feminine. As a result, we’ve forgotten what it means to live by Divine Feminine principles and natural law which is in tune with the rhythms of Mother Earth.

Living in a fast-paced world has disconnected us from the concepts of receptivity and presence, life as sacred, loving-kindness, self-nurturing and allowing things to just “be.” All of which connect you to your divine femininity.

We have precious little time to invite the Divine Feminine into our lives. In fact, you will not experience Divine Feminine energy until you return to the place we first met her: The Female Body.

Yes! Your female body supports the presence of the Divine Feminine.  Your female body innately knows how to be feminine. When you honor, love and respect your body you’ll witness a return of the Divine Feminine within you. You’ll no longer ask What the divine feminine is because you’ll have experienced it.

What the Divine Feminine IS and IS NOT regarding the female body.

What The Divine Feminine IS
  • Inspiring
  • Held as sacred
  • Empowering
  • Honored & Respected
  • Healing & Nurturing
  • Connected to Mother Earth
What The Divine Feminine IS NOT
  • Exploited
  • Objectified
  • Power Abuse
  • Taken for granted
  • Used for material gain
  • Destabilizing to the feminine
Revealing Your Divine Feminine

When you think of your body as a sacred temple of the divine, no matter what age, shape or size, the Divine Feminine within you will be revealed.

For example, when you hold all your relationships as sacred including the one you have with yourself, Divine Feminine energy will be awakened within you. You’ll know how to be feminine and experience it in a truly healing way.

“She” will come out of hiding when you recognize and honor “her” essence within you. The mysteries of the divine feminine will be revealed. You’ll no longer ask yourself “what does Divine Feminine mean?” or “How can I be more feminine?” because you’ll have experienced “her” being expressed in your life, in your relationships, and in your body.

This precious part of you has been gobbled up by “The Image of Woman” in our society.

The Divine Feminine qualities within you have nothing to do with what our culture defines as how to be feminine.

As a result, we have turned things around and upside down. Our values have become distorted. We have lost our way. Even if you don’t buy into these values, they are consciously and unconsciously expressed in our world. There is pressure to conform.

We’ve been told a woman should…
  • Have a perfect body
  • Never Age
  • Look “Pretty”
  • Keep her emotions in check

I want you to experience what it truly means to connect to your Divine Feminine. It’s that part of you that is wild, free and sensually expressive. It’s that part of you that is uninhibited yet wiser than you can ever imagine.

The part that stays emotionally centered and is not afraid to speak your truth because you trust and honor your intuition. It’s that part of you that’s filled with gratitude because you realize how sacred life is. The divine feminine principle lives within you. It’s part of your true nature.

What You Need to Let Go of to Live in Your True Feminine

Stop buying into society’s definition of a woman. In order to understand what the Divine Feminine means you have to release old belief systems, let go of cultural conditioning and tap into the beauty, grace, and uniqueness of YOU. How to be feminine needs to be defined by you and your unique expression of it as a woman.

Your Divine Feminine qualities express themselves differently from other women. There is no such thing as One Size Fits All. The feminine divine within you knows you are a unique and important part of the whole.

Be You!

Most of all, what this means is stop being anyone else other than you. No one can be you better than you. Don’t be a poser or imposter conforming to societal norms.

Especially the norms that keep you confined and insecure as a woman. Come out of your box. Allow yourself to celebrate your female body and divine femininity. Connect to your playfulness, sensuality and erotic innocence. Honor your emotions and your intuitive side.

Stop hating your body and how you look. Stop judging yourself from the outside in and learn how to feel good from the inside out. Then the Divine Feminine principle will no longer be a mystery to you. When you do all these things, divine feminine energy will start flowing freely in your body.

I believe that each woman’s own personal and unique discovery of the Divine Feminine within will benefit not only her, but society as a whole. We need more feminine leaders promoting peace and love. They have always been around and we need more to start showing up. Let’s celebrate and support them.

You are one too. Your divine feminine wisdom wants to be expressed because it will ultimately create more peace and love in the world. But it starts within you.

9 Ways to Express The Divine Feminine In Your Life

  1. Honor Your Emotions

Most of us were taught that what we are feeling is wrong. How many times have you told yourself, “I shouldn’t feel that way.” Or told a friend, “Don’t feel bad.” We’ve been taught to avoid our negative emotions at all cost. For that reason, we have so many ills in our society.

If we could just learn how to feel our feelings and give our uncomfortable feelings a loving voice, the world would be completely different. We would have more authentic and loving relationships. We’d feel more alive in our bodies. In fact, we might even have peace on the planet!

Honoring your emotions instead of repressing them is extremely important. Because your emotions don’t go away. They are actually a source of powerful energy and vitality for you. However, when repressed will either leak out in your relationships as manipulation or passive-aggressive behavior or develop into illnesses.

It’s important to know how to process your emotions otherwise they’ll get stuck in your body, not allow divine feminine energy to flow through you, and ultimately keep you dis-empowered. Learning how to nurture, care for and acknowledge your emotions… in other words knowing how to process your emotions is one of the most valuable tools a woman can have.

  1. Love your Body

No matter what age, shape or size you are, love your body. Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ideal body shape. Unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type typically depicted by the media.

Love Your…

  • Hair (Thick / Thin / Short or Straight)
  • Belly (Big / Bumpy / Scarred or Not)
  • Legs (Long / Short or In between)
  • Butt (Flat / Round and even Flabby)
  • Toes (Manicured or not)

You need to know that your body is perfect just the way it is. Developing a loving relationship with it is a key divine feminine principle. Divine feminine energy is not a visual…. it’s a feeling. And in fact, the human body is a magical vessel holding that energy. Be kind to your body and don’t abuse it.

Are you overeating, over-drinking, overindulging in any way? Do you live a stressed-out life? Do you have a hard time sleeping at night?

If you don’t care for, honor and love your body you won’t have access to its infinite wisdom and the power of your divine femininity. Learn how to slow down and listen to your body  Slowing down gives you access to the healing power of the divine feminine essence within you.

  1. Trust Your Intuition

We live in a world that validates logic over emotions. The idea that things don’t exist unless you can see them. That’s why when you get an intuitive hit you might often ignore it.

If you want to connect to your divine feminine, start honoring your intuition. Start trusting those intuitive hits. Pay attention to them. Especially when you get a gut feeling… don’t ignore it. Have the courage to listen to what your inner wisdom is saying and act on it. Because you have more wisdom than you probably realize.

Learning to trust yourself and know that what you are feeling and intuiting is not only valid but also correct for you. Your intuition is your guiding force. Use it and honor it.

  1. Give Your Inner Wisdom a Voice

Don’t be afraid to speak your truth. We have been programmed with “the disease to please” as Oprah would put it. Afraid to rock the boat, many of us keep our mouths shut and don’t speak up for ourselves. Are you doing that?

That disconnects you from your power because it keeps you from accessing your divine feminine wisdom. Don’t be afraid to process your emotions and then give them a voice. Stop moping around and acting like you are powerless. You’re just having an uncomfortable feeling.

An uncomfortable feeling means you have an unmet need! That’s it! Therefore, learn how to make yourself important enough to honor your needs. Having needs doesn’t mean you are needy. A woman connected to her Divine Feminine power knows how to ask for what she needs.

We haven’t learned how to give our uncomfortable feelings a voice by asking for what we need. Consequently, most of us lack good communication skills. Do you know how to speak up for yourself without making the other person defensive? Do you know how to set healthy boundaries?

It’s not easy and takes not only courage but also learning new communication skills. Communication skills that don’t put the other person on the defensive but still allow you to speak your truth.

Most of us talk from our heads and aren’t truly expressing ourselves from the power of our hearts. For that reason, disagreements cause disconnect. In some instances for years. It’s because you don’t know how to open your heart and give your inner wisdom a voice.

Learn how to speak as what I call a Divine Feminine Communicator. Someone who listens to their body, tunes into instead represses their emotions, honors their intuition, knows how to ask for what they need and has the courage to be lovingly transparent with those they are close to.

  1. Have Gratitude for Life

In the hustle-bustle of life, it’s easy to forget how special life is. But if you have ever had a life-threatening situation you quickly remember how precious life is. Or if you have lost someone, especially unexpectedly, you realized how precious life is and how quickly it can be taken away.

For example, I remember being in the hospital with an emergency appendectomy. I was in the hospital for a week and I shared my room with a woman who had her leg amputated while I was there. It was life-changing to bear witness to her experience.

Most importantly, the Divine Feminine is the life-giving force. It is not something to take for granted. It is magical, mystical and very special. Your life is special. Take time to honor the life and body that you have been given.

Examples:
  • Count your blessings and be grateful for what you have.
  • Be grateful for your health and the health of your family.
  • Honor all your relationships.
  • Forgive those who have hurt you.
  • Heal and celebrate your sexuality.
  1. Create Sacred Space

A good way to do this is to take time first thing in the morning to connect with spirit. For example, this can be through meditation or other forms of stillness that allow you to connect to that part of you that’s beyond the physical.

Examples:
  • Meditative awareness of your third eye, your breath, or your body.
  • Walking meditation on Mother Earth barefoot.
  • Give Your Inner Wisdom a Voice.
  • Do spiritual invocations and affirmations.
  • Pull Oracle Cards for insight.
  • Connect to your spiritual guides and guardian angels.
  1. Use Your Imagination

Einstein said, “Imagination is more powerful than knowledge.” Knowledge, facts and figures, and logic and reasoning are part of the masculine principle. Imagination, mystical events, and intuition are the feminine principles. Trusting that which is not seen is the feminine principle.

Use your imagination to create a better world for yourself and others. Because your imagination is how you create. Before something comes into manifestation it first needs to be in thought-form.

Your imagination is connected to your intuition. It is the unseen world. And it is real. For that reason, start using your imagination as your Divine Feminine tool to bring more goodness into your life.

  1. Get to Know Yourself

Do you really know who you are? And how much of who you are is the person you think you should be? What if you stopped “shoulding” on yourself and started getting curious instead? Stop living a life that was programmed into you and start living a life that is your true purpose and passion.

Do you know your soul’s purpose? As you peel away all the conditioning and beliefs systems that limit you, you’ll have greater access to your truth. The real you. The divine you. Your divine feminine essence. The guiding light of your soul.

More and more ancient wisdom is available to you than in the past. And this ancient wisdom allows you to get to know yourself better.

“I awareness” is not selfish.

On the contrary, it is self-empowering! And it increases self-love. In that way, you’ll actually have more love to give. Investing in yourself and getting to know who you are will awaken your divine feminine.

  1. Honor Your Sexuality

I would have to say that this is at the core of the Divine Feminine. If you’re not looking at your sexuality from a new lens (different from our cultural programming) then you’re living in a very limited view of what you think your sexuality is.

And I’m not saying this to be judgmental. I’m saying this because we live in a world that is riddled with shame when it comes to sexuality. Not many have an opportunity to sexually heal themselves. And our culture is sexually wounded.

Porn that depicts women in a disrespectful light is rampant on the internet. Sex trafficking unfortunately is alive and well in the world. And our educational institutions often have educators who themselves don’t feel fully comfortable with the subject matter.

If you really want to access the power of your Divine Feminine essence you need to look at your sexuality. You need to get real with yourself about what parts of your sexuality are still in the dark. You need to nurture your sexuality to wholeness. And it can be a wonderful experience and deep inner journey.

What attitude do you have about your female genitalia?
  • Do you feel confident and comfortable to ask for what you need in the bedroom?
  • Do you even know what your sexual needs are?
  • Do you feel comfortable receiving pleasure?

These are important questions to ask yourself if you want to fully embrace the Divine Feminine within you. If you want to free yourself from the common sexual issues people have, the only way to do that is to cultivate a deeper relationship with your female anatomy.

A powerful way to do that is by learning how to use the Yoni egg and understanding the benefits this powerful feminine tool can offer you.

When used properly, meaning doing the divine feminine guided practices and not just “sticking it in,” you’ll awaken your deepest divine feminine essence. This ancient practice offers you the opportunity to really get in touch with the sacredness of your sexuality. And that’s extremely important for your personal empowerment during these changing times. If you’re not familiar with this divine feminine practice start with this free course.

In conclusion…

This is only the beginning! Learn how to express your divine femininity and your life will transform. Let go of limiting beliefs and learn the ways of ancient wisdom. Be the leader of love that you were meant to be. You are here to make a difference no matter how big or small. But you need the power of your divine feminine energy in order to be a true Leader of Love and make this a better world.

Easy Divine Feminine Exercise:

Before you continue on with your day… take one brief moment and do this easy, short divine feminine exercise. Place your hands on your heart. Begin to breathe into your heart. Feel the flow of energy as you breathe. Connect to your breath. Feel the warmth of your hands penetrating into your heart. Feel the elixir of love you are cultivating within. Feel the calm.

Take this feeling with you for the rest of the day.

This article was originally published at: https://annathea.org/
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If you haven’t read Part 1, you’ll want the background before diving in to Part 2. Read it here.

More than four months have now passed since I began my “ideal” socially distant relationship with a man who reached out to me in January. I have been living in an altered state of consciousness for the majority of these past months, barely noticing the trials and tribulations of this major global and home life change due to the Coronavirus pandemic, social distancing, and everything familiar about my daily life upended. I’m still dancing on the rooftops with my new “friend,” we have burned up the airwaves with our text threads filled with words, photos, art, poetry, disappointments, hopes, dreams, and fantasies. Add to that a host of Word documents, emails (but only a very few phone calls), and one more zoom call.

We both love the silence of texting, though we often hear each other’s voices on the videos we send. I am clearly the one who has (what I am finally admitting) a serious crush on him. But really, is a crush soooo serious? Here’s what I found on Google…

Crush is defined as a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone inappropriate or unattainable.          

 The crush, as long as that person remain a crush, isn’t real. … A crush is a vaguely human-shaped hole in the air into which you pour your own imagination, dreams, projections, desires, and longings. Yes, a crush can turn into love. But before that happens, your crush must first turn into something else: a human being.

 Butterflies in your stomach, anxiousness over how long it takes for someone to text you back, obsessing about when you’ll see them again, sweaty palms, etc. Crushes-we’ve all been there, and they’re not just for those middle school days, seriously. The struggle of trying to actually chill out when you have a crush is real and the science behind crushes is fascinating, as are the precious stories of people’s crushes becoming real.

I am also thanking him profusely for holding space and connection with me while I unprofessionally summersaulted through this crush, writing him at all times of the day or night, always with salutations of “sweetheart,” “beloved one,” “gorgeous,” and on and on. At some point I began to realize that he was not feeling the same things I was, as he clearly, warmly, and honestly would inform me that he was just not open to sharing his sexuality or even becoming “virtual” lovers with anyone.

In such beautiful words, he defined this time in his life as a time to reclaim his autonomy while gaining higher insight into his nobility, integrity, and spirituality as a man, which of course just made me fall even harder.

Of course, my wise and mature self totally agrees and supports his feelings and his space. Aren’t I just the most spacious “lover” a man could ever ask for? Not only do I live with my domestic partner of twenty years, I am also twenty years older than “the other beloved,” not to mention half a world away!

And yet…. and yet…

Be sure to stay tuned for Part 3, where I describe the effect this man is having on me, in detail!

Big love, Caroline

A Shakti Success Story

Franca Baroni, Shakti Success StoryMeet Franca Baroni, Attorney at Law. She showed up at my door last year for her three-day Immersion, but she did not look like this. Her aura was gray… her demeanor somewhat guarded and uncertain. She told me of her childhood growing up in an area close to the northern border of Italy, being educated in Europe and the U.S., and currently living in Seattle. She was working as an immigration lawyer for the past several years supporting undocumented victims of crimes, domestic violence, and persecution. She spent many hours a week in the detention center bringing hope to those who’ve lost it. It was depressing to say the least and although her work was meaningful to her, she felt drained of her life force… her shakti energy.

We talked, we laughed, we giggled like old friends who hadn’t seen each other in too many years. She shared a common restraint that many women feel when receiving sacred spot massage from a female… from a woman and person who isn’t a sexual partner. It’s difficult to allow arousal even when feeling it. There is a stigma worldwide that says, “If it feels good with a woman then I must be gay” or something like that.

I carried a lot of fear in my early days of doing this work about being touched by a woman in sacred spot massage. It’s so foreign for a heterosexual woman always geared towards men for sexual pleasure. What if we like it? Honestly, the touch of a woman is so healing that of course we are going to like it!

In our initial talks, I gathered that Franca no longer felt in alignment with her “job.” She was drying up in her work life even though her extraordinary young son was the light of her life and she was pursuing various creative projects. That has all changed since our work together… when Franca realized that she was not fully living according to her essential divinely feminine essence… her powerful Shakti woke up and spoke to her at a whole new level, like never before!

A true bond of sisterhood and friendship was born during our sessions together. Franca recently sent me the above photo along with the schedule of appearances of her One-Woman Show featured in Seattle and Denver venues. I am compelled to share this journey with you of a woman who took her life in her hands and changed it dramatically!

This is Franca today. Wowza! You might say. She is a One Woman Show… and she is taking herself on the road. I am so proud of how Franca honestly and fully listened to her Shakti when she went home to Seattle… within two months she quit her regular job… leaning on her trust in herself and the Divine Feminine and letting the magic unfold. She still continues to work as an immigration lawyer, now freelancing, but her priority is to make space for the creative and sensual Goddess moving through her.

If we were to explore the details, I’m sure we would have much compassion for the amount of work it takes for a woman to do what Franca is doing… yet we would also share in the extreme joy she feels every time she goes on stage.

Here is a video about what One Woman is doing to share her gifts with the world: One-Woman Show “Act in the Public Heart: A Lawyer’s Journey” You can learn more how to get tickets for her live shows here. Franca has two shows coming up: Oct. 19 and Nov. 3 in Seattle, WA at the Jewelbox Theater.

For those of you considering the path of becoming a much-needed Teacher of Sacred Sexual Awakening and Healing® as a Certified Spiritual Sexual Educator, I know YOU will be the one writing articles one day about the people you have watched come into bloom with their shakti because of your belief in this sacred work. The Goddess and Divine Mother are calling you… are you listening?

Big love, Caroline

Tantric Breakup

We unwove as consciously as we had woven ourselves together…and that was very, very consciously and slowly, during four days of deep purification and energy work–and energy play–at a Tantra retreat that left no shadows undiscovered. On the last evening. Finally. We kissed. And I realized.

At first glance, he had been too beautiful for me, and therefore, I surmised, gay—so well groomed, such good posture, pen perfectly placed beside his journal. Beautiful men are surely vain. Or gay. That was the easiest way to dismiss this man who stood out in the circle of 40. But he wouldn’t easily be dismissed. For example, one day at lunch I had a passing, silent, fantasy: wouldn’t it be great if this retreat had waiters, who’d take my plate and bring me dessert—and just then the beautiful and surely vain man beside me offered to take my plate and bring me dessert. I was stunned. I let him. Way to make my dreams come true!

The first day of the retreat, during a very boundaried exercise, women had been instructed to ask their partner (whether brought from home or met mere hours ago at the workshop) what level of touch he was comfortable with: on his perineum or inches away.  So I had asked him, my partner of the moment, my beautiful, surely vain, possibly gay, future psychic waiter. Let’s call him Rudy.

“What level of touch would you like?” I asked.

Rudy replied, with zero attachment, “Whatever you’re comfortable with,” and I was struck by his verbal chivalry. It mattered not to him how he was touched; he cared about his partner’s comfort level. There was something about him.

Me being me, by the end of that very clearly instructed, efficiently orchestrated Tantra exercise, I had my hand in his pants. That was not part of the instruction. But I can be spontaneous. I like to break rules. Hand in pants was what I was comfortable with! Here was this gorgeous young specimen spooned in front of me, either gay or not gay, definitely not vain, but cute and fresh with his Aveda scent, and there went my hand. He was irresistible. I was opportunistic. We were enjoying getting acquainted. But I had some well-set boundaries and had lunch with someone else that day.

At the end of the second to last night of the workshop, late, when clothes were a distant memory to all of us, when all the body paint had been used on each other, I noticed that someone in his group had scrawled on his bare abdomen, like graffiti, “Sublime lingam,” with an arrow pointing downward. Couldn’t help but notice. I’d noticed his sublime lingam too, more than once in that 5-day course when we’d been unclothed. It was just plain sweet. I noticed a fleeting bit of envy that someone else had labeled his lingam. To be honest, I am much more taken by women than men. But this man was cracking my foundation…in a good way, gently, thoroughly. The next night, the final night of the workshop, fully clothed, when all of the guided moments of the puja were over, in a moment of play, I surprised him with a full frontal kiss on the mouth. Immediately, I too was surprised: I really, really liked it.

Who knew?

He did. He’d had his third eye on me since long before the retreat, when he had created a vision to meet a woman just like me…and had an intuition to attend this level two Tantra retreat, “knowing” he would meet her there. At a meal, he had overheard me telling a friend that I would love to have a male Tantra partner who was willing to dive deep with me, and not have it be about going to a movie and dinner first. I wanted the sex to come first.  I wanted it to be just about sex. I was not into dating or having a boyfriend.  I wanted to learn to move my sexual energy, unite my Shakti with Shiva, whatever that even would mean in real life.  I could go to movies with my friends. I could go to movies alone. I wanted Divine sexual Union.  In case he’d been wondering whether I was the woman he’d created in his intention or not, this clinched it. Little did I know–I hadn’t even known he’d been listening.

Over the next few days of the retreat we spent plenty of time giggling and partnering and rubbing each other’s feet and on the last night decided that the retreat would not be the end of Us. I arrived home to a poem he had written and emailed me. About Us. We plunged into what became a five and a half year long-distance revelry. Right away, we decided not to call it a ‘relationship,’ which implied effort, compromise, goals, seriousness.

“Let’s call it a journey,” I offered, and we embarked.

Before our first sexual experience, I said, “I want to love you as much as I love you and not have it be about anything. Not about diamond rings or moving or the future. I want it to be about love itself.”

“Perfect,” he said, in his laconic way, with the smile that fed my heart. And I committed to love him as much as I loved him, whatever that meant in any given moment, and if I didn’t feel the love, it would be all about me and zero about him. That was our mutual commitment.

Rudy was so easy to love, and as a bonus, he could make chai from scratch and came equipped with countless compelling stories about traveling in India. I was enchanted. He was funny, excellent in the kitchen, and he gave me plenty of space to be me. Over the years, I loved him no matter what, trained myself to recognize and transform any judgment about him that would seek to keep me out of Love. I learned there was nothing he needed to change about who he was; I just needed to release my own habit of judgment.

Let’s never wish we were anywhere other than Here Now, we decided at the end of our first weekend together. Let’s not want what we don’t have. Let’s channel the love and desire into our own life rather than wishing we were together when we’re apart. And…the biggest: we will handle our own issues, seeing each other as mirror. Period. I commit. Only if we absolutely couldn’t resolve an issue on our own would we bring it to each other’s attention. It was pure bliss. Whether he flew to Chicago or I flew to Miami, it was about sex, reverence, play, indulgence. Not about issues.

“Just so you know, I can’t be monogamous,” I had said that first weekend. “It’s not who I am.”

“Ok,” he said. “Whatever works for you.”

“Actually, I want to be monogamous,” I said, the second weekend, a few weeks later. “With you.”“Ok,” he said. “Me too.”

Immediately, people—friends, clients–began to ask me where our relationship was going, what our plans were. “It’s a journey. No destination,” I’d say, and that didn’t always register. So I would over-explain. “It’s a journey. It’s not about where we aren’t, what we don’t have. I have a partner who looks at me with reverence. He doesn’t want anything from me, except to be a mirror. I don’t want it to be anything other than what it is.”

“But really, when are you going to get married?” they’d ask. People had simply no paradigm for a girl-boy alliance that wasn’t “going” somewhere, leading to something permanent.

We had made an agreement around sex, right away. There was no flirting or messing around, no wondering who would make a move. We made as clear an agreement as we could make. It went like this: “Let’s have sex.” And at any given time, after sex, or after breakfast, or during dinner—often—one of us would say, “Let’s talk about sex.” It was our favorite topic. There was no stone left unturned; neither of us was too shy to say how something felt, what we wanted more of, less of. We both cared about how we could generate more energy to play in, how we could circulate that energy, between, within, around us. It was heavenly.

More than one person—and these were the people who I could actually tell—wondered how on earth we could have sex for four hours a day.  “Well, we split it up.  It’s about two hours in the morning.  Two in the afternoon.” Rarely did we have sex at night, before bed, like everyone else. (That was our time for eating pie.)

But what on earth do you do for two hours, they would wonder aloud. And what makes it tantric? And do you ever just want to have a quickie? And does he ever get to ejaculate?

These are all good questions. We could have sex for four hours a day because we had magnets implanted at the beginning of time, magnets that drew us to each other. I have no better explanation. We were drawn.  e knew there was a higher purpose to it, and the purpose was to move this supercharged energy, to not have sex be about sex, but about personal transformation, then about making the world a better place. Whatever we wanted to clear up, clean up—that’s where we would direct the energy, intuitively and intentionally. He could tell which way the energy was flowing—or not flowing, which was a special gift of his. As we cooked, we blessed our food with the sacred energy we had created; it was a way of reabsorbing it. Sexual energy wasn’t lost in the way that it is during Western sex, because, even if we did eventually have orgasms, it was after transmuting the energy.

I think it worked—we worked–because in addition to loving sex, we both loved to meditate; our sex was a compelling combination of both. Before ever meeting me, he had practiced maintaining an erection, which required a level of discipline; but if he didn’t maintain it, I didn’t fear that it was about me. (And if he did accidentally prematurely ejaculate (which for us meant, well, 45 minutes in) then, of course, it was about me; because he just couldn’t control himself.) I had no reason to ever think I was anything but utterly compelling to him. Because we had no issues—not because we had no issues, but because of our initial commitment to have no issues.

Did we ever want to have a quickie? No. What made it tantric? Being conscious of the energy flow, conscious of knowing each other as Divine. Being conscious of every breath, every moment, while in ecstasy. Sending the energy where we wanted it to go. Did he get to ejaculate? Yes! He knew when it was physically necessary, and his timing was masterful. (And if I may digress, did you know that the ejaculate of a meditator is known to be supercharged with consciousness? Indeed. I have a friend who once requested semen from a monk so she could use it for a facial. It’s a long—and funny—story. Truly one of my coolest, most self-realized friends. So, men who save their semen, tantricly—men who run the sexual energy through their body without ejaculating—as opposed to monks, who we assume don’t run any sexual energy at all—have some very precious nectar.  Sort of a fountain of youth.)  Meanwhile, in addition to experiencing the delights of Rudy’s Shiva energy, we would also explore the secrets of female ejaculate.  The female body is quite the storehouse for emotions. I’d laugh, then cry hysterically. Or cry, then laugh hysterically. Then we’d have to rest.  There was just no TIME for a quickie.

What intrigued me, ultimately, even more than sex with him, was, actually, pujas, blessings, ritual.  Sex goes hand in hand with puja, for me, and at this level of sexual-spiritual, I can barely tell them apart.  Reverence was the main course.  I was just as happy to be fully clothed, blessing him in any way my imagination permitted.  And he was willing to receive what the Goddess, as embodied by his earthly partner, had to offer.  Even though it was all about sex with us, at the same time it was not at all about sex.  At least in the traditional sense.

No one understood.  And that was fine.

We could do it forever.

Until we didn’t.  Until…five plus years in.  It seemed as though we had peaked.  Our journey a macrocosm, in a way, for the act of intercourse itself.

It was time to either set new intentions or separate.

When we broke up, I released so much energy, so much, I could barely identify it all.  It filled my car, where I sat, holding my phone.  It was fear and dread…and I didn’t make up any stories around it. I just felt it. There had been nothing to fear except the fear of breaking up, which had built up in me, and maybe us, over a couple of months.  When he’d answered his phone, I had said, “One of us needs to be the one to call the other one and break up, so, I volunteer.

“Ok,” he said.

Just like when we had come together, when we broke up there was a recurrent question from my posse out in the real world:  “What happened?”

“Nothing happened,” I would reply.  “It was just time.  The energy was no longer supporting our Union.”

“But…what did he do, what happened with you two?  You seemed so in love!”  We were.  So in love.

The first cultural assumption is that a good and viable relationship must be permanent.  The second assumption is that surely something went wrong if it didn’t “last.”  Who made this up?  That true love lasts forever is such a prevalent assumption. What if true love and true union and the beauty of coming together have nothing to do with permanence?  What if they have to do with presence? Until you choose not to be present?

“What happened?” people asked, with deep sympathy. “I am so sorry!” It was difficult to explain why there was nothing to be sorry about, without sounding delusional, in denial, new agey…the expectation of pain was so high, among everyone.  I really did sound like I was in denial. I found myself almost wondering if something were indeed wrong with me…callousness, for example.  Because it didn’t hurt.  It felt great.

“And how is he taking this?” I’d be asked.

“He feels the same way,” I said, more than once. It was so simple.  But only to us, it seemed.  Even out of union, I loved our Union, our agreement to be simple, our agreement to be immune to potential dramas, our agreement to create our own unique itinerary on our journey.

We exited in the same high level of consciousness at which we entered: present, engaged, listening to our hearts, listening from our hearts.  It was lovely, and I could only celebrate.  But because our way of celebrating had always been, well, sex, we didn’t actually celebrate.

What an amazing 5-year path of discovery, of learning to be receptive, of opening to the masculine Divine, of letting my Divine Feminine be present with no need to hold back, ask for a guarantee, or claim ownership.

I had learned to experience higher consciousness as embodied by this man, specifically as delivered by his sublime lingam.  I had learned to let that energy travel through my spine, like a pole of light that exposes anything that isn’t Love.  I had learned to revel unfettered in my own Divine Feminine, in Shakti, the energy of creation, to ride with it for hours that felt like moments and moments that felt like hours.  I had learned to expose it all, without feeling exposed.  I had learned to love someone no matter what.  I had learned that monogamy is simply placing all my eggs in one basket, but that it’s important to be selective about the basket.

Quite a journey.  At its completion, we were both sated, filled, changed.

So yes.  The breakup was conscious. Tantric.  “What if we take all of our sexual energy, our lower chakra connections, and bring it up into our hearts,” he suggested.

“And what if we take all of our shared consciousness, the psychic moments where we know what each other is doing, and bring that down into our hearts.  So going forward, we feel like dear friends and not exes,” I said.

“Perfect,” he said.  We were so aligned.

We sat there on the phone together and did it, brought the energy into our hearts.  I felt nothing but love for him.  So much love that I was tempted to not break up.

“I love you,” I said.

“I love you too.”

Our Divine journey was finished. I was grateful that we had seen it coming—we had seen it coming because of the clarity we embodied.  We had seen it coming, so our journey could exist forever in its pristine state: we had never had a fight, rarely a disagreement, there was no blame to assign, there was nothing either of us had “done.” We were just done.

We were happily, beautifully, complete. And yes, there was a part of me that wanted to get naked with him, right then, to celebrate—and I think that pretty much sums up why Tantra is the perfect spiritual path for me.

In retrospect, beyond our Divine journey, what I have to celebrate is this: you too can do it a whole new way. You can love and be loved, without having it have to be about anything but love. You can come together consciously and exit consciously—or not exit at all, and just stay conscious. You can call in the partner of your dreams, and they can be better than you’ve ever dreamed. You can live in Love. You can choose the most blissful spiritual growth path imaginable—sex!, and Let Love Rule. We do not need to live within an old paradigm that was designed by people who were not as enlightened as we now are. We can design a unique New Paradigm that feeds and sustains our bodies, minds, and spirits. Now is the time.

 

My thoughts, as I rose the day before the Solar Eclipse of 2017, were filled with images of opening to Divine Light and releasing our (yours and mine) rage and grief that we’ve carried as women for too long. I chose to consciously release into Mother Earth in order to compost what I have taken in from women during the 30 years I have been involved with the Awakening Feminine. And into me, your Queen, I invited the transmissions from Yoniversal/Universal Love.

Tantra Yoga evolved for me into the Divine Feminine and Her inevitable awakening on this plane. I actively seek alignment with the rewiring that is always at work within my heart and soul.

An eclipse is a reflection of what is possible and how we are being asked to participate. To be a Queen who takes her throne on the seat of the Heart of Love is a lofty ideal. The Bodhisattva teachings bring heaven to earth. Not a bad assignment for a girl from the prairies of Kansas now residing in the land of She… Wild and Free!

I love this piece from Mystic Mamma:

TOTAL SOLAR ECLIPSE | NEW MOON in LEO rises as the Queen within takes her throne on the seat of the Heart of Love. 

Divine Feminine energy comes through the veil to awaken humanity to its true power in love.

A new way is calling as the outmoded, short-sighted, repressive ways of the Patriarchy are no longer tolerable or permissible. We the people awaken and new leaders step forth.

Together, we rise in consciousness for an inclusive humanity. Together, we cast away the illusion of separatism and step forth to heal the divides within ourselves, our partnerships, and our communities.

Each of us has the power to shift and realign with the heart as we let go, forgive, ask for forgiveness, and move through our collective grief to our seat of personal power within the heart of love

And so, my earthly and astrological friend, I ask you to receive your download at this time as it relates to your own very personal divine assignment. Receiving a download feels much like being struck by lightning, but in a positive way, not a way that would fry you to bits! It is a Birth process into a new form of leadership led entirely by the Heart of Love.

I wish to give thanks to Lauren Jubelier and Amrita Grace for this Gift of insight. The Shamanic path, whether it be Healing, Breathwork, or Astrology, is not for the faint of heart, but for the warriors and leaders of the coming Age of Truth.

Are you In? Tell me how the Great American Solar Eclipse affected you in the comments below!

Love, Your Queen of Hearts during a period of Cosmic Initiation

Six months of planning! Growing out my hair, longer than it’s been in 25 years. Finding a local photographer for a photo shoot so I would have new pictures to show you on Facebook and on my website. Choosing the perfect days… the perfect weather… for perfect outdoor pictures…. The perfect yet vulnerable divinely feminine me!

I say vulnerable as I mused How many more times will I do photo shoots in this career and lifetime? Can they photoshop some of the sun damage on my arms and legs? Oh yeah, just wear long sleeves even if it is 100 degrees in the sun (duh). Self-doubt is common, I know, whether young and lacking in confidence or aging and not wanting certain things to show up in the photos! I caught myself in every trap that I help women avoid – always aware of walking my talk.

The alarm on my iPhone softly beams me up at 5:00 a.m. with the hair dryer shaping my long tresses… while I carefully apply a natural look in the oval mirror as dawn creeps in the window behind my dressing table offering warm morning light. Oh, the taste of my Maui coffee while I watch my sweetheart purr softly under the light covers in the pink dawn. I feel like a leading lady on the set getting ready for the director and cameraman to arrive…. all eyes on me, Queen for a Day!

I dress and grab a few extra tops for the morning shoot, following the photographer in my car as his truck winds up through the Sierras on its way to a meadow in Hope Valley (how appropriate the name) where we will carry and schlep everything to a variety of yummy spots near rushing streams of fresh snow melt. He has multiple pieces of equipment hanging from his strong shoulders while I gracefully pack in my beauty bag filled with the accouterments of the feminine plus water and snacks.

The now-hot sun lights up my inner glow. The nascent green grasses blow softly in the high mountain air. By now I couldn’t care less how my hair looks or what I’m wearing… I just know I am in God’s country where the Goddess feeds my soul. Camera… where? Pose… how? I just want to cry it’s so beautiful, and after many blinks of tearing eyes, the morning progresses with click after click of the camera and the Goddess dancing together in the high mountain meadow.

It took me about 3 days to come down from that leading role! Remembering that my teaching and my healing work are the nuts and bolts of my career, I can now step up to embrace the many testimonials of me and my work… the very core of my assignment as the founder of Divine Feminine Awakening for women and couples who are drawn to deeper love and pleasure.

An aside: I made sure I was photographed without a smile, compassionately listening to his girlfriend tell me her childhood story of violation and abuse, as that is my true nature. I listen to you with the same heart full of caring because I know your story is your doorway to freedom.

See you soon… let’s talk,

Big Love, Caroline

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“According to the tantric texts, women’s enlightenment is facilitated by the electric charge of her orgasmic nature. Through sexual sharing a woman activates a powerful sexual/spiritual energy, her Shakti, which then releases itself into her physical body and into her psyche, creating the atmosphere for her awakening and spiritual enlightenment.”

“Tantra recognizes spirituality as a kind of rearrangement of the same energy as sexuality, so when a woman increases her sexual power she adds, on an almost cellular level, to the strength of her spiritual aspect as well.”

From Tantra, The Art of Conscious Loving

I am inspired to write to the men… to your man… perhaps to all men.

I need you, men, to know how many parts of you turn a woman on… way before she actually is entered by your Wand of Passion… your Wand of Light… your Wand of God… and for some… your great big beautiful Cock.

Of course, not all women are alike, but most women are alike in that we love anticipation. We love to feel our desire emanating from every cell of our being. But we seldom get that, because entry/thrusting/intercourse and climax are over so quickly. Unless, of course, you have all day Saturday, the kids are away, and you have enough energy to be sexually and creatively active for many hours. Did you know that the word climax means “Stairway to Heaven”? Too often we skip the steps in order to reach the top, but both lovers often do not reach the top due to extreme differences in arousal timing and preferences.

What turns me on is the seed planted in my brain that something special is about to happen. I will notice the scent of my man, a word or words that get my mind thinking about pleasure and intimacy, anticipating a “best ever” orgasmic experience that is leisurely and intensely focused on ME….. me me me me me me… until I can’t stand it and I need to focus on you you you you…. (and I will add here the same anticipation works when I know I am going to have a self-pleasuring date with myself).

The subtleties of touch, of kissing, of eyes locked together in passionate intimacy… the warmth of skin and the movements of bodies dancing in erotic rhythm. If every man and every woman reading this would write (or speak and record) his and her perfect sexual experience, how would that look or sound? How might we teach one another so that no one ever has to spend time in a relationship where he or she is unfulfilled? Many are at a loss for words when it comes to speaking and describing these sensual intimacies.

Would you please write a paragraph or two or three, in the privacy of your world? Send them to me without your names if you wish, and let’s see if we can create such a weaving of our innermost visions that they would manifest outwardly.

Thank you! I love you! I can’t wait to hear from you!

Big Love, Caroline

Taking it Even Deeper

Are you breathing as you read this? I’m not talking about automated, unconscious breathing that you don’t even think about… can you find your breath beyond the shallow in and out that keeps you alive? Do you grow impatient with yet another reminder to Breathe Deeply, slowly, and with a focus on filling your lungs, holding for a moment, and then exhaling in slow motion before you take your next breath? What does this have to do with the divine or the feminine or orgasmic sex or whatever you are into? Hmmmmm… I wonder!

It’s as though we must re-take kindergarten over and over again, but this time it’s adult kindergarten. Our stress levels and to-do lists are over the top, so who has time to remember this breathing stuff? The power of your conscious breath can slow your thinking and calm the wild beast of your mind in a very short time!

This is very complimentary to the Breathwork Amrita wrote about in the last blog and the power unleashed via the breath when guided intelligently and compassionately… as you will experience in our Costa Rica retreat.

We are not creatures who take well to the idea of clearing our thoughts or “not thinking” because it seems impossible to do. The mind chatters on no matter what technique you apply. Some call this “learning to meditate,” but as a great thinker once said to me, “Why would I want to quiet my mind when there are so many great ideas in there to think about?”

I was speechless! He actually had a point. Something as basic and simple as mastery over the mind or the breath leaves most humans weak in the knees. And yet I write this blog as a Great Reminder… as loss of Power relates to going unconscious in your daily breath… not your daily bread… your daily BREATH.

The Divine Feminine work of sexual healing and awakening is dependent on teaching clients and students to breathe deeply – letting go of big sounds on the exhale. Breathing modalities such as Holotropic Breathwork and Shamanic Breathwork® use the power contained within the breath to assist the breather in releasing and letting go. Doesn’t it make sense that bigger pleasure and bigger orgasms can be invited with deeper breathing, faster breathing, louder breathing, controlled breathing, guided breathing, and breathing that releases energy?

For a full return of your Power, darling, begin now to access your deeper breathing into the full capacity of your lungs. You can skip kindergarten and move onto the playground sooner! I really have to work hard with clients to get them to breathe more deeply… it’s just so ingrained to contract and keep our breath shallow.

Next is another nearly impossible request… that of making sounds. So, if you have a mind to practice your Daily Breath, do so as an orgasmic step toward more vitality and peace of mind; and I will mention that more pleasure will join more Power in everything you think and do. Share a nostril-to-nostril kiss of breath with your lover and see where that takes you………..

It may take you to Costa Rica come play with us in the Sacred Feminine Mystery School’s Sacred Sexual Awakening & Healing Retreat for Women November 4-11, where we will inhale the scent of the sacred as well as the tropical… where we will awaken nerve endings in all of our sacred spaces… in all of our openings into our bodies, so that we breathe through our genitals as well as through our nostrils!

Sound like fun? I promise! Join Caroline and Amrita in sharing what we do best and love most!

With a tickle as I breathe my love to you, Caroline

My View from the Top

Panama momentI have always loved the view from the top. As a child in Kansas, it meant the top of the big old apple tree in our backyard. In New York City during my 20’s, it meant the view from the top of the Empire State Building. In my 30’s, it was the view from the top of the Rocky Mountains in Colorado… in my 40’s and 50’s in Maui, the view of Forever as I gazed out to the never-ending Pacific Ocean of horizon and sky.

….and on and on until this became essential to my view of the world and of my life.

At the moment my view is from the top of Trump Ocean Tower in Panama City, Panama. Please don’t confuse this as my choice for our next President… the guy does build nice buildings, i.e. the one on Fifth Avenue in NYC and this 70-story hotel in the Republic of Panama overlooking Panama Bay and the Panama Canal. The 66th floor outdoor café is thrilling (especially when the lovely tropical rain falls)!

What does this have to do with the Divine Feminine and the Awakening of the Goddess… well, many things! I love to watch women… and I love to watch men watching women. It is a privilege and a study much like viewing fine art in the museums of the world. It teaches me so much about the masculine/feminine dance of awe-inspiring desire, sex appeal, and the longing to merge. I see the insatiable curiosity to touch, to reach for the scent of another, to capture a gaze… and yet there is the steady protection to withhold, to look down, to walk the other way.

Here, were I am one in a million with eyes as blue as the sky, I love to capture those gazes. They see me as a creature from another planet… a “gringo” from another land. I feel the energy to connect. I return that. And the spark is complete… I feel aroused by this ‘salsa’ energy. It’s alive as the Shakti of the Yoniverse, converging with the Universe at all times.

Panama_CityMy skin is soft as a ripe Mango. I feel reborn. It’s more than a vacation. This is a vacation with a purpose… to apply and acquire a Residency Visa from the Panamanian Government… to feel firsthand the air, the people, the sky, and the water… absorbing the elements of jungle and concrete as they meet in harmony with advancing economic sky-scraping technological reality. “Poof”… said the magic dragon. What is next?

I will be home in Nevada for another 11 months. I will move the Immersions for women and couples to a tropical hideaway once I find the perfect place for you to deepen into your own Mango skin! Stay tuned my dear ones… the magic dragon might find you next!

In the awesome spirit of adventure, Señora Caroleena

woman-mirror-natureI am witnessing women coming forward with unparalleled courage… to give birth to themselves.

At every age they are arriving at my doorstep, intent on claiming their feminine birthright… the ownership of their Shakti. I am honored to shepherd them toward their goal. Women are getting the message that their time is now. Honestly, I am humbled by their forthright intent to do whatever it takes in order to not miss out on what is theirs to claim.

Skyrocketing levels of empowerment, self-esteem, acceptance of who they truly are. And perhaps at this point I will include myself… in who we truly are! For with each experience of women’s courage, mine is reactivated, infused, and channeled toward the explosion of feminine power… feminine knowing…feminine grace.

I cannot truly claim to be their mentor, for a higher force than myself is sending them on the gorgeous path to the abundant temple where the great Goddess dwells. In our oneness with Her, we relax further into the feminine mystery where we float and ride the current rather than laboring to swim upstream.

My schedule is booked solid through mid-September, and I’m taking bookings for the Divinely Feminine Experience for women and The Deepening Process for couples for the fall and early winter now. What is this, exactly? Find out more here for women and here for couples.

Are you ready?